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It's a sleep one

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Perchance · 17/05/2022 18:52

NC. AIBU to be upset, scared and regretful because my second is just as poor a newborn sleeper as my first? I think it's reflux again as well as 4th trimester velcro baby stuff. Baby is 5 weeks and formula fed for past 2 weeks after breastfeeding stopped working. No other issues apart from he won't be put down for more than a few seconds no matter what at any time of day or night. DP & I look after him (and our 5 year old) in shifts at the moment but he's back at work in a few days (works out of the home) so our current arrangement won't be sustainable any more. I am terrified I won't get any sleep because I'll have to sit up awake all night and day with the baby who won't be put down. How the fuck can I do it? Am I stupid to have had another baby when it was so hard first time round even tho I had family help in the daytime last time (they have since died)?? We have no one around us to help because friends all work and family are either too far away or not physically able to help anymore. I have been doing so well with my mental health since the birth but that bubble has well and truly burst. I feel like I've suddenly woken up from a lovely dream and am now faced with the reality of no sleep. I cannot cope without sleep, it will destroy me. I can't believe I've done this to myself and my poor little family. What a fool. But how can I regret this lovely baby?

Please, has anyone else been in this situation and come through the other side with their health & family intact??

OP posts:
maybein2022 · 17/05/2022 19:38

First thing is to arrange a GP visit if you think it’s reflux and see if medication will help.

If your partner is home in the evenings, talking about him having the baby for a ‘shift’ in the evening (say 8-11 pm) for you to sleep so at least you’re getting 3 hours solid break/sleep.

Have you tried a dummy? Also propping the cot up a little? (Can’t recall exactly how to do this but is meant to help with reflux).

Good luck OP. Neither of my two slept for ages and it was brutal, I’m pregnant with number 3 and am worried too!

Perchance · 17/05/2022 20:40

maybein2022 · 17/05/2022 19:38

First thing is to arrange a GP visit if you think it’s reflux and see if medication will help.

If your partner is home in the evenings, talking about him having the baby for a ‘shift’ in the evening (say 8-11 pm) for you to sleep so at least you’re getting 3 hours solid break/sleep.

Have you tried a dummy? Also propping the cot up a little? (Can’t recall exactly how to do this but is meant to help with reflux).

Good luck OP. Neither of my two slept for ages and it was brutal, I’m pregnant with number 3 and am worried too!

Thank you. I was wondering about a dummy and I'd forgotten the propping up trick. I'll try to get a GP consult tomorrow (wish me luck).

Lots of love and luck to you for your upcoming new addition 💐

OP posts:
maybein2022 · 18/05/2022 17:15

Hope you managed to get a GP appointment OP and that if you tried a dummy it was of some help. Thanks for your kind words for me too! X

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