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Sarah453 · 17/05/2022 15:31

Hello I wonder if we’re being unreasonable. So my partners ex who he has a toddler with is causing problems. My partner has they’re child every weekend Friday evening till Sunday evening and it has been that way for the last 2 and a half years. She was also the one who walked out on him and ever since then he has been struggling to pay for the house that they both got together. He works Monday to Friday and wants to start working every other weekend so it’s not a struggle every month with the bills, he has spoken to the ex and she’s not very happy about this and is threatening him that he won’t see they’re child as his a bad father. He has said that he would like to have they’re child overnight in the week a couple of days as he still wants to see them as much as he possibly can. I Just want to add he always helps her out as much as he possibly can throughout the week if she isn’t able to have the child and he pays for them aswell. She also doesn’t have her child much during the week as they’re either at nursery or get dropped on her mum or her partner. Can I have peoples opinion on this please as we aren’t sure on what to do but does seem like she’s not keen on having they’re child as she’s more interested in going out.

fyi my partner wanted me to post this on his behalf.

OP posts:
ghostyslovesheets · 17/05/2022 15:33

Go
to
court

and don’t start by framing her as a bad mum it won’t win you any prizes

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 17/05/2022 15:40

Put her life out of your head. Concentrate on the child and youe OH.

He needs to go to court and get the house, access, maintenance all sorted legally. At the moment it sounds all a bit disjointed, not thought through by anyone.

Tdcp · 17/05/2022 15:40

I think a couple of weeknights and every other weekend is fair to be honest. I don't think it's fair for either parent to have a toddler every single weekend. Go to court is my advice.

Watermill · 17/05/2022 15:55

Is she an XW or an XP? If the former he needs to get a divorce, if the latter, he needs to get legal advice and split properly with regards to selling the house and child access and maintenance.

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