To want my dream life?

[mychel]

Backstory: myself and dh bought out first home 18 months ago a new build in a good area. However it’s a 3 story townhouse and my dh has been diagnosed with some health issues since we moved in (not related) these will mean mobility will perhaps be an issue in the future. Since we moved our circumstances have changed, we both switched jobs to better salaries, we have had a bit of an inheritance, and doing better on paper if you get me. I also have a teenage daughter who has 2 years left in school but she is super settled in the area we are in and loves school etc. Issue is I have just found my dream home it would be the perfect place for us in day 2 years time ( bungalow, beautifully done out and even a workshop (my dh likes making stuff as do I) . It even has a separate apartment fully kitted out as a guest suite / perfect apartment for teenager when older. We currently live in a very commuter friendly area and this new place is opposite quite rural. Place we live now we have built up a large number of friends, and have family near by, new place has only a couple of friends nearby but not immediate. However where we live now is very built up, very little privacy, however everything on doorstep, hotel with leisure centre across the road, 10 mins into town walking, train station etc. Dream house is rural about 15 mins to nearest town / similar commute to work. Dh doesn’t fancy thought of moving thinks it’s too much hassle and could be impending recession. This dream location is allot more expensive than current house however we would probably make £50k on our current house min and we have this inheritance which would mean we would be in similar situation if not better off as interest rates lower (currently) and if we sold we could afford it easily, possibly half the mortgage we have also. So Dream house or stick with what we have which is still a nice location.

How far away is this house? Hundreds of miles?

living a 15min drive from everything is a real burden, especially if your DH is ill. every time you want a pint of milk, you have to drive. every time you want a GP appointment, you have to drive. And what if your DH's illness means he can't drive - you would have to do everything. Also, take-outs, deliveries and taxis are all harder to get than when you live in commuter-land

And your DD would need a third car or you'll be chauffeuring her around too. It would also be v unfair to move her from her friends and school, so you will have to wait 2-3 years to move anyway.

remote rural houses look beautiful but think very carefully about what your life would really look like day-to-day. And put this one on the pipe-dream pile.

Look again in 2-3 years when the housing market and your needs will have changed.

Have you viewed the house or just looked online? I’ve found a lot of dream houses that I didn’t like as much in real life.

Thanks everyone this is what I needed to hear. We currently drive for gp and pharmacy as they are near where we used to live and I’m used to doing a weekly shop as we live about 20 mins from big supermarkets currently though that is due to change shortly. I have seen the house and I agree if it came to us in 2 years time it would be a no brainer. For now I will chalk it down to pipe dream land.

Agree with pp - It doesn’t actually sound like a dream if dh mobility is getting worse and you are not local to amenities. He’s not keen on the move and it wouldn’t work out well for your teen getting to school and to things she might like to do.

The mobility issues are more an issue where we are as currently in 3 floor townhouse vs this is a bungalow. For now it’s going to reside in the pipe dream folder but it’s still stuck in my head.