See pil at jubilee?

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Hi guys, thanks to jubilee dh and I have a rare couple of day off together. Also our dog walker is still working Thursday so we have opportunity to go out for day with dc. This is a rarity as I work weekends and when we do have time together we are either taking dog with us or going out for a short space of time to be back for the dog as he is still young. I'd suggested a few ideas and we were looking forward to it. Then pil have invited us to theirs thurs/fri, as they are doing a street party. Which sounds fun except dc and dn fight like cats and dogs . Dc is autistic and struggles with playing with other children although she does want to. Also we have a large German shepherd puppy who is a nightmare in busy places and also chews so would need to be on lead constantly. It's stressful going for day so thought of overnight seems awful. But pil are very keen and dh thinks we should go. I think he prefers idea of drinking/eating/socialising to the three of us doing something child orientated. Whereas I would prefer the more peaceful day. What would you do?

Can you do one day at theirs and one on your own. Tbh, their idea sounds better and besides you can always do something just 3 of you.

Could you go there on the Thursday afternoon for the party, stay that night to avoid having to drive so you can both have a drink, and then leave first thing Friday morning and spend the rest of that day with DC? You could take her somewhere that's outdoors, where you could take the puppy as well? Seaside, maybe, or an interesting country park with stuff to do?

That way, you'd only really be spending one afternoon and one evening with the PILs rather than two full days and you've have a chance to do something more relaxing afterwards. I can see why your DH wants to go to the party, to be fair, although I can also see why you'd rather not, so I think some sort of compromise might be in order if at all possible.