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AIBU to not consider counselling?

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SecretIdentitee · 16/05/2022 15:45

I am currently (maybe last 3 months) overwhelmed and know I am stressed and having occasional panic attacks, Dh yesterday suggested it might help if I saw someone.
We have seen the positives for both our DDs who have have some counselling, eldest after being bullied and moving school, other Dd as she has ASD and it helps her.
My problem isn't the same, mine is just I am busy and can't seem to get on top of things.
We have 2 kids doing exams including one with ASD, we both work busy jobs but both company's are super with flexible working/family friendly etc, we don't have money issues, marriage is good, get time to ourselves by scheduling a days hiking or something every couple of weeks etc.
To me the problem is I just feel overwhelmed and under pressure to schedule and control it all, even when I get a 'down' day like yesterday I can honestly think of 10 things to be doing (took DD to buy shoes :) ) I am writing this while DD is at her session and I am technically working on my phone by monitoring emails etc.
So our down time is the hikes which I honestly spend days planning then stressing if Dh will like them, he always does, I don't see ant reason for why I feel anxious even planning them.
Because I feel time is so precious I feel reluctant to try and find more to go talk to someone when I could actually be fixing something but I feel so close to burnout.
Does anyone have experience of counselling helping them if they are like me? Is there a particular type of therapy I should look into?
Appreciate any and all feedback.

OP posts:
Sirzy · 16/05/2022 15:47

To me the problem is I just feel overwhelmed and under pressure to schedule and control it all, even when I get a 'down' day like yesterday I can honestly think of 10 things to be doing

one of the main things I got out of a course of cbt was it made me acknowledge the above and why I was like that. It really helped me to change my mindset and realise I didn’t need to do it all.

Rotherweird · 16/05/2022 16:13

Sorry you are finding things so tough. Counselling could well be useful in helping you understand why you find it difficult to switch off, and why e.g. planning the hikes feels so stressful. I think a key thing with counselling is finding the right person - the relationship is the most important thing. So if you have a session and it doesn't feel "right", don't hesitate to look for another counsellor - when you find the right one you will know!

VeryTrying22 · 16/05/2022 16:14

Have you thought about getting a work coach or counsellor instead

Mine straddles the line between coach and therapist, helps manage work stress, bounce ideas on how to manage stressful projects off each other, also helps across some personal issues too.

might be easier for you to see the ROI on the investment of time if it also helps with work too?

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