I sometimes feel all I do is Nag!

[Krabapple]

I hate it too. I just get so frustrated with the lack of help. When the kids were younger I worked part time and didn’t mind doing the bulk of household stuff but now there are 2 still at home, adult and an older teen but I still end up doing most stuff. I work almost full time and have much less free time.
DH does his share but at his own pace - pottering rather than doing jobs that need to be done. No one else ever cleans a bathroom - I never even use the family one. I have mentioned this to dh loads - he anyways says yes I’ll clean it - it will only take me 10 mins but he never has! I did 3 loads of washing on Saturday, all hung out & then went out in the afternoon until are. Not one of them thought to bring it in so it stayed out all night & it rained! It’s always me that has to think of & buy stuff for tea. DH will cook if asked and usually if I have got ingredients and thought of what to have.
As a result I seem to wake up at the weekend & my day off thinking of everything that needs doing and then getting a bit stressed and whinging/ nagging about it and then hating myself.
Yesterday I folded everyone’s washing in piles on the dining room table and asked them to get there own . I ended up moving it at dinner time so we could eat (didn’t put it away but took it upstairs).
I wfh mostly & seem to have loads of other bits to do - all food shopping/admin/ nipping to get stuff/ posting items/ordering things/ dog walking etc! I am really busy actually working not sat around. I just feel a bit burnt out . How do I actually get my point across as this isn’t working & just makes me miserable?

It’s so frustrating but you need to stop doing those things for them, don’t do their washing for a start.

one thing I would say though, I used to get in trouble for not bringing the washing in but I wouldn’t have been aware there was even washing pegged out, I think if you do want it doing you need to let them know at least - ‘I’ve pegged the washing, please bring it in if it starts to rain’

All I can suggest is that you let your family know that you will remind/ask once and if it's not done you won't be doing it for them or reminding them again. Or you could go more hard core and tell them that you won't be doing anything for them any more - so if they don't do it it won't get done. If things get better then you can have a reasonable discussion with all of them as to who does what. Actually - you ought to do that first!

I absolutely wouldn't do anything for them. You don't use the family bathroom? Then you don't clean it. Do you wear their clothes? No? Then you don't wash it. I would rearrange their stuff so there is a space available for you at the table but if they want to sit down then they move their stuff. If doing nothing for anyone else is good enough for them, it's good enough for you too.

Thanks for the replies. Have tried most of tactics at one time it another. I have been for a walk to clear my head. What I need to do is stop letting it get me down, tackle things one job at a time and if I ask someone to do something not step in when they don’t (as I do now). It’s my day off today, am spending the morning cleaning then meeting a friend this afternoon so still getting a bit of me time.

just stop cleaning
Your kids need to learn household management and they won't whilst you doing all whilst muttering and nagging