Just looking for some opinions about this.
DS14, has Asperger's and goes to a specialist school. For a few reasons, including lockdown, and the fact that his friends are now not from the local area, we haven't had any of his friends over for a year or so. We had one of his friends over today, a lovely boy who is also 14.
Although DS was looking forward to it, he was also anxious about his friend coming over, and we talked about what would happen whilst his friend was here. One of the things he mentioned was that they might watch a film in the living room, and he asked if the rest of the family could not come in during that time as he likes to watch a film uninterrupted.
His friend came round this afternoon and all was going well. They decided to watch a film in the living room. Then my mum popped round to collect some shopping that I had got for her. I told her that DS and his friend were watching a film and she said she would just pop in to say hello. I said to her, no please just leave it for today as DS just wanted to watch the film and not be interrupted. Aside from anything else my mum has a habit of treating DS as a young child and I knew he would be embarrassed if she was like that in front of his friend. My mum then seemed hurt, so I said, well ok Mum, go and say hello. She then said "No you've missed your chance, I'm not going to say hello now. Anyway you shouldn't let your kids dictate to you - you should be the boss in your own house" and then left
I have had low self esteem all my life and questioned all my parenting decisions. My dad was extremely critical and angry and my mum was a very authoritarian parent. I know my son can be controlling at times. I feel like I try to make everyone happy and keep the peace and actually everyone ends up pissed off. I was trying to respect my son's boundaries, and need for privacy as he is 14, but perhaps I am being a walkover, I really don't know. I am feeling really crap - any thoughts on the situation would be appreciated! TIA.