To think school behaviour won't deteriorate again?

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DD in reception and year 1 had really horrendous behaviour. Diagnosed autistic and adhd, also both years disrupted by covid. She was in during lockdowns, but from her perspective school was completely unstable for nearly 2 years

The final term of year 1 she seemed to click and year 2 she has done incredibly with the odd minor incident, usually linked to PE. No physical behaviours since March of year 1, no running off since April of year 1. Her learning is flying.

We had specialist school agreed this time last year and then I u-turned due to how well she suddenly clicked. She loves school. She loves learning.

School continually make comments along the lines she will hit a wall and it will go wrong again or "this will be the term that she struggles". They are quite adamant year 3 will be too much for her.

My instinct is she will prefer school as it gers more formal and more interesting. The school are worried about the potential of behaviours re-occuring.

AIBU to think some children do naturally find school easier as school progresses? I feel like school are waiting for when it happens, not if it will happen. Does it always happen?

There comments are a bit worrying in terms of attitude. Of course some children find ks2 or 3 or 4 suits them better, particularly if the right support is in.

Your child's needs will change over time. All you can do is be responsive and ensure support is there.

Is the special school place still available?

I know special school places are incredibly difficult to get and school might be concerned that if she doesn't access it now, it might not be available in the future.

In reality nobody knows, but they will be basing their comments on what has happened with others in the past - doesn’t mean the same will happen with her though of course.

Ds is now in year 7 at mainstream. He has always been in the “doesn’t quite fit” group for whether he should be in mainstream or specialist. For him year 3 was by far the toughest transition point where things very nearly imploded. But working with school and getting his ehcp better he has been much more stable since then (has had full 1-1 since)

even now though I don’t know how long he will cope where he is as well as it is going now. All you can do it do your best and take it step by step knowing things may end up needing to change.