Feel left out, but I’m not making the effort

[Whatthehell77]

Realise this is unreasonable but wanted to see if anyone ever felt the same.
I've been feeling a bit flat for a few months and have turned down a few invitations, Dd hasn’t been well so we’ve not gone to the mums meet ups.
But seeing all the weekend things on social media, I feel a bit shit, it’s not even as though it’s from groups of friends meeting up without me, just people out and about at parties etc, but it’s my own fault 🙈🤣
Does anyone ever feel like this? I think social media is to blame a little as I’d probably have been fairly content to do sweet Fa this weekend, which is what I’d planned for anyway.

Wel I’m an introverted antisocial miserable bitch so no, to me, to be left out of “people “ shit is fucking brilliant!

@Wobblyjob 🤣

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I spent many years late teens and early 20's working abroad in the holiday industry.

I then s mid 20's and spent lots of years around other parents (mostly mums)

My ds is autistic and likes his own space.

He is also a swimmer and so at pool 6 days a week (sometimes twice) and that's a lot of being around other people on top of my job in education.

I love people.

I don't love people at weekend when I don't need to be around the, 🫣

Isn't that what FOMO is all about. Switch off social media and mooch. The people who really care will still be around when you need them.

What’s mooch? 🤣

As in, mooch about?

Take the apps off your phone. Or, you know, message a friend and arrange something for next weekend.

I get it OP.

I’m a massive introvert and can probably say I have a fear of rejection. As much as I love my friends, I tend to wait until one of the more extroverted and outgoing members of the group tries to arrange something.

I can totally understand people who may think “Well, Flissy never makes any effort” when deep down I WISH I could call someone up and arrange plans. But every time I reach for the phone I get that stupid voice in my head saying “They’ll say no. They hate you. Why would they want to hang out with you? They’ll already be busy.” It’s my anxiety that triggers it.

Mooch as in potter around with no particular aim or purpose, pleasing yourself.