To be really worried for my friend?

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A friend of mine has recently started seeing a new guy. About 2 weeks after she started dating him I saw her and she told me all about him. We've both been quite unlucky in love so far and have similar issues in relationships, it's one of the things that we bonded over when we first met. We both tend to be very open and trusting and want to see the best in people. Friend has also been honest that she's struggled with her mental health.

I'm really happy for her that she's found someone who she seems to really like and likes her back, in recent times she's had a couple short term flings who seemed great at first and then not long after ghosted/changed, and one guy who strung her along for quite a while before breaking up with her which she was really upset about.

Only thing is, my spidey senses are tingling about this new guy and I have a horrible feeling in my gut that this guy is bad news. I hate that I'm being such a negative Nelly about this because I really do want the best for her but so far since meeting him:

He said that they should go into business together
She's given up her own (self employed) business and is selling it
She's moving out of her council house
He's taken her on holiday to an exotic location

All of these could be great things for her (and I really hope they are) but they've been together for just 6 weeks! It all feels like too much too fast. Like lovebombing/future faking? I'm so scared that she's given up her business and home and that if they break up she'll be left with nothing.

Aibu? I promise this is not jealousy talking, I have a wonderful dp and a lovely life of my own I'm just really worried for her. I think she is more vulnerable than she realises and I don't want this guy to take advantage of that.

I swear I wrote it paragraphs! Sorry, they seem to have disappeared 😬

Sounds like the tinder swindler on Netflix

Yanbu but sadly If you say anything I can pretty much guarantee she will think you are just jealous

Can you Google him op?
Gave me a great insight into a man I had dealings with. Not romantic ones thank goodness..

Why is she selling her business? I don't understand that at all.

Wow, She's given up her home and livelihood for someone she's known for 6 weeks! That's crazy. I'd be worried too. Whether he is bad news or not, even to ask that of someone and to think that's normal relationship progression is bizarre.

I definitely think you are right but I don't think she'll listen to you or want to hear it. I don't know what I'd do. It's absolutely a lot very quickly. Sorry I don't have advice. Someone will hopefully

I can see paragraphs.

I can see why you're concerned, have you googled him just in case he's a scammer? But really all you can do is just tell her you're happy for her but that you're worried that it is going too fast and be there for her if it all goes wrong.

Oh yes that does sound very fast, and very worrying! Is there anyone else that knows her that you could talk to? If it was my friend I would be considering staging some sort of intervention! It really is very foolish of her to give up her home and sell her business after 6 weeks with someone. Hopefully someone will be along soon with more sensible advice…

@Maybebabyno2 she says it's because she has health issues (which tbh, she does) but she's been running her business despite those health issues (which she has had for a long time) for years and it seems very abrupt and convenient that all of a sudden she's jacked it all in when she met him and he suggested they go in to business together. She had another business before that too so she's always worked for herself. I strongly suspect some sort of 'if you're finding work hard just give it up and I'll look after you/we can go into business together' kind of conversation might have happened.

Regarding her house, she says she is moving to a different house but again it seems extremely convenient that she has been trying to move/swap council houses for a long time and then all of a sudden with new man on the scene it happens almost instantly. Again, I strongly suspect it won't be long before she's moved in.

I haven't googled him yet (I will though!) but have looked him up on Facebook and his feed is mostly full of him on holiday or doing fancy activities. That could just be because we aren't FB friends though. It also says he is the former owner of a 'gentleman's club' which tbh is enough to make me run screaming! I can't quite describe what makes me uneasy about him but even in pictures he looks a bit..dodgy. His smile doesn't reach his eyes.

I'm just so worried for her.

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