£15 on a wedding gift for my very best friend?
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CheapOrNot · 15/05/2022 14:41
It’s an ornament that I know she and her Husband To Be (HTB) will absolutely love but it’s end of line so heavily discounted down to £15 (usually around £45).
This is my best friend in the whole world, I mean the person whose been by my side for the worst things in the world (and she’d tell you I’ve been the same for her).
For context I’m bridesmaid at the wedding, will have paid out over £300 on hen nights (there’s 2) and I’m also buying my DD whose a flower girl specific shoes to match her dress as she has a leg issue that means she has to wear certain shoes which have cost me £85.
I am a single parent and I’m the only bridesmaid other than her sister whose maid of honour. The £300+ I spent had to be saved for over a number of months.
WIBU to only spend £15? I doubt my friend or her HTB will google the price and if they do I doubt they’d care.
Am I being unreasonable?
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rubyslippers · 15/05/2022 14:43
You’ve said they will love the gift
That’s all that matters
buy it
Sapphirensteel · 15/05/2022 14:45
They’ll love the gift, that’s what matters most and if you’d bought it last month it would have been full price, so what if you’ve bought it for less— it’s the same gift.
GarlicGnocchi · 15/05/2022 14:47
Absolutely fine. Love is not measured in £
Heathyou · 15/05/2022 14:49
They will love it so go for it!
I'm not sure I'd be buying £85 shoes though - can't she wear some shoes she already has?!
My friend's little girl has to have certain shoes due to leg / feet issues too but I'd be happy with her rocking whatever shoes she already has!
Chica10 · 15/05/2022 14:50
I am surprised your best friend allowed you to spend so much money already on her big day, especially as you are juggling everything as a single parent.
What ever you give her it will be fine.
IRunbecauseILikeCake · 15/05/2022 14:51
She's your very best friend. The most important thing to her is you being part of it all. Buy that gift. It sounds like she's going to love it.
anothernamedoesntsmellsosweet · 15/05/2022 14:51
I imagine she would say that you and your daughter being part of her day was enough really so it sounds fine to spend £15
SmudgeButt · 15/05/2022 15:16
The most thoughtful wedding gift we got was from my cousin who said outright "I know your parent's friends are rich and are going to buy you all sorts of lovely stuff so I decided to get you something very everyday" And she was right - we got lots of expensive stuff that we didn't know what to do with (hand carved duck decoy anyone!??!) and so her gift of relatively cheap complete dinner set with matching cutlery was great. We used it daily and really appreciated it.
RandomMess · 15/05/2022 15:21
It is the thought that counts!
Ihatethenewlook · 15/05/2022 15:38
Chica10 · 15/05/2022 14:50
I am surprised your best friend allowed you to spend so much money already on her big day, especially as you are juggling everything as a single parent.
What ever you give her it will be fine.
I agree. I think she’s a bit of a shit friend (who needs 2 hen parties??) to force a single mum to fork out so much, especially for a special pair of shoes for her daughter just for the wedding. If I was the friend I’d be making it clear you’re not to fork out any more money at all on presents on top of everything else
CheapOrNot · 15/05/2022 16:01
Friend said I only had to go on one of the hen dos and offered to pay for my drinks, it was me who insisted on paying my way (i'm not a freeloader).
Shoes I felt more comfortable getting, and DD will want them to be an exact match colour wise to her dress, friend was happy for her to wear whatever she could.
Aprilx · 15/05/2022 16:09
CheapOrNot · 15/05/2022 16:01
Friend said I only had to go on one of the hen dos and offered to pay for my drinks, it was me who insisted on paying my way (i'm not a freeloader).
Shoes I felt more comfortable getting, and DD will want them to be an exact match colour wise to her dress, friend was happy for her to wear whatever she could.
I don’t really understand why you have mentioned those things then. You seem to be mentioning money that you have chosen to spend on yourself (you did after all get to enjoy a night out) as a reason to spend less on a present. I don’t get it. If you know they will enjoy the ornament then get it, you don’t need to justify it.
gettingolderandgrumpy · 15/05/2022 16:19
Op I’m not sure why your giving this any headspace. If was something that she’ll hate be it £15 or £155 it’s a waste and pointless. I’d not care if you spent £5 on a gift in If that’s all you can afford . Your that worried about seen as a freeloader or cheap that your overthinking things . It’s a gift she’ll love and you can afford that’s all that matters .
MrsFionaCharming · 15/05/2022 16:22
I was broke when my best friend got married. They were having a UK honeymoon in a cottage with an open fire. I bought them some marshmallows, chocolate biscuits and skewers so they could make s’mores.
Its the thought that counts, and if she’s your best friend she’ll understand.
Bumply · 15/05/2022 16:26
A wedding gift to a friend was an origami heart folded from a £20 note.
They loved it so much they framed it.
It's the thought and the love behind your gift that matters most
Salacia · 15/05/2022 16:29
Is she really such a good friend if she’s expected you to spend so much when money is tight? On flower girl shoes etc?! You know she’ll love the gift so no problem there but might be time to have a serious thought about give and take and your friendship? I’d be mortified at asking somebody to spend so much when I know it was such a stretch!
Hawkins001 · 15/05/2022 16:39
It's thought and the practicalities of the gift being suited for the couple that matter , in my perspectives, weather it was bargain basement price or e.g. Millions
Boiledbeetle · 15/05/2022 19:56
Bumply · 15/05/2022 16:26
A wedding gift to a friend was an origami heart folded from a £20 note.
They loved it so much they framed it.
It's the thought and the love behind your gift that matters most
I did the same for my best friend. Although I did two £10 hearts and stuck them on a packet of heart shaped straws! They spent theirs though!I
OP, even if they do Google it they will never know that you didn't buy it when it was full price!
Workwork21 · 15/05/2022 19:57
I truly would rather have my friends there than presents so if someone couldn't bring anything at all that's fine by me.
A true friend would just want you
blackteaplease · 15/05/2022 20:03
One of my friends gave us a scratchcard for a wedding present and the other an iou for when they had saved some money up. Neither was an issue, I was just grateful they came to my wedding
Eightiesfan · 15/05/2022 20:38
It’s the thought behind it, not the price. If your friend will love it go ahead.
Sweetener12 · 16/05/2022 10:07
All that matters is whether your friend would enjoy the gift and you say she would. Love isn't about the amount of money spent! if you feel like you definitely need to add something you can make something like a smartshow 3d video about her and her future husband's story or prepare a really nice speech or something like that. Heartfelt things like that are way more memorable that pricey gifts.
iwillnotstaycalm · 16/05/2022 12:32
If she is your best friend it won't matter how much you spend on her. Honestly, go with your gut.
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