Former friend?

[Scarriff]

I thought a newish neighbour + I were friends. She is fiercely anti vax + pro special diets so I've learned to avoid such topics if possible.

Realising we hadn't seen much of each other recently, I messaged to say I had very cheap theatre tickets for the end of this month + inviting her + her husband. No reply for three days. Rang but not answered. A message saying she was busy followed. I waited another two days then messaged to say that I assumed she didn't fancy the play + I had found other companions. A long message came back saying how busy she was in detail, but not that they weren't free on the suggested evening or whether they would have liked the play. I replied saying it didn't matter + to let me know when she was free for a walk or a coffee. I'm convinced I will not hear from her. AIBU?

Enjoy your theatre trip with your other friends and move on. If she wants to talk again she'll reach out, if not no worries, at least you won't have to tiptoe around vaccine stuff etc

You invited her, she said she can't, she's busy, so you want to stop being friends?
Have I got that right?

Just leave her to get on with her extremely busy life 😂 she sounds a bit if a pain.

Not quite. I invited her. She didn't reply. I chased her twice before inviting others. She then replied telling me in some detail what she was doing this week. No reference to the date itself.

Sounds like she's already stepped back, you just didn't realise for a while. YABU to chase her.

Sounds like she could be feeling a bit overwhelmed by life and doesn't feel like committing herself to anything. I would just leave it.

It does sound like she's stepped back from the friendship.

You've asked her to contact you when she's ready to meet up, I'd leave it at that OP. Don't contact her again. See what happens.

I wouldn’t have appreciated the call after if messaged saying I was busy. You sound a bit pushy tbh.

You shouldnt have chased her twice and taken her non-answer as an answer. Which was no.

No reply for three days. Rang but not answered. A message saying she was busy followed. I waited another two days then messaged to say that I assumed she didn't fancy the play + I had found other companions.

Which part of "I am busy" were you struggling with, OP? 😐

Too busy to send a quick text. For 2 days. Give over! Nobody is that busy or important to keep you waiting that long for a simple answer.

Just leave her to it OP. If she contacts you first, fair enough. Otherwise I wouldn't bother anymore

You sound quite suffocating. You say she is only a newish neighbour so you barely know her and already you're hassling her about going places. I'd feel very overwhelmed by you and be avoiding you too. Back off. She's just a neighbour, so why can't you just wave over the fence or something?

And if she's strongly anti-vax, why would you want to spend much time with her at all, let alone go places with her? Are you desperate for friends? Do you have no other friends to go to the theatre with? Because I'd suggest you raise your standards.