GP won't help

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Hi all

On Friday I called my GP for some help and advice ..
I had a traumatic birth (premature) then baby was in hospital for 3 weeks. Once home on day 4 baby was taken seriously ill and had to go back to hospital for 2 weeks fearing the worst.

It's been 5 months and I'm really struggling to cope. It's not depression but I do think it's some sort of anxiety.

I keep blaming myself for not being able to carry my baby until the end of pregnancy and for everything that's happened.
I have a healthy baby now and I'm happy but every little cold or Illness sends me over the edge. He's currently got hand foot and mouth and I'm fearing the worse I can't sleep I can't breathe and every time I think about my baby's health I get chest pains and get myself in a state of crying and not being able to move on.

Spoke to my Gp and he said there's nothing he can do. Could send me for some counselling but there's people going through worse things.
I don't argue with that. I'm sure my problem is 1% compared to others but aibu to still want to speak to someone? Or should I just try and get over myself

A couple of people have suggested the perinatal team, just to say the way services are at the moment if you referred to them they’d redirect your referral to the primary care psychology team. At the moment perinatal services are stretched (as are all services) so they’re focused on those with a secondary care need (need care co ordination as well as psychology).

Oh you poor thing, you are traumatised and you need specialist help. There is a therapy called EMDR that a lot of people find very helpful for reducing trauma. The beauty of this therapy is that you only need a few sessions.

I hope you get the help you need and deserve. It is very hard to manage a little baby and trauma x

What?

OP my ds was premature and I remember very difficult feelings for many months after the birth.
A pp further up the thread is correct - you should be able to google local mental health services and self refer to a Primary Mental Health Team. They are called different things in different areas, Primary Care, Wellbeing Team. It sounds like you could do with some support.

Get another GP. I had similar which was triggered by a lot less than what you went through - citalopram sorted me out (my therapist was the one who suggested I ask for it actually because I was in such a bad way therapeutic intervention wasn’t enough alone).
Nothing else even came close to taking the edge of the debilitating anxiety.

You've really been through a rough time, it's not strange at all that you're feeling this way. Maybe you should seek out your own counselling, for example Better Help ?