Update: stepmum with DS wedding and DSS malarkey

[Weddingpalava]

Hi all, sorry I had the other thread deleted, it was being commented on so much I worried about family seeing it and I'd mentioned a few things I probably wouldn't have done had I not been so angry.

The wedding was yesterday and went off okay. DSS loved being at the posh venue and all of that malarkey and DSis had a good day.

It was weird not being a BM and I felt sad that it had all come to this, but then gave myself a good shake and reminded myself why.

I don't know what will happen from here. She's been behaving at family events, but I'm wary of being sucked back in to the cycle. My parents are adding a lot of pressure to sort it out but I've been having some health issues relating to stress and my anxiety has been awful so I think I just need a break from it all.

Thanks again for all the support and advice. It really has made a difference in how I see the relationship and given me the confidence to take control a bit more. For that I'm very grateful.

Really glad to hear the day went well and especially that your DSS had a good time. Look after yourself going forward - sounds like you’re aware of the likely games your sister will play, but it’s easy to get sucked in so stay alert and stand firm!

Glad you went in the end if only for your DSS.

Let your sister crack on and if she's unreasonable again your parents will just have to accept that you won't put up with it

Glad it went ok and dss enjoyed it-i would still keep low contact its not up to your parents to decide that you should talk to her

they enable her so want everyone to fall in line

Thanks for updating, op. Sounds like.you came up with a good compromise. You still attended, dss had a great time and you kept your boundary by not being bridesmaid.
Hope your sister continues to behave and it goes smoothly going forward.

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling OP. I'm glad you and the family went and the DC enjoyed it. Do you feel brave enough to stand up to your parents?

I remember your thread OP. Glad all went OK yesterday. Look after yourself and your health.
Your sis decided to cause all of this, not you!
Take care

Oh is this the one where your sister uninvited your stepson and was playing batty headgames about it? I'm glad you all had a good day and are in a good place about not getting sucked back in, she sounded totally toxic.

I'm glad the day went well in the end, @Weddingpalava, and that your DSS enjoyed the day. Agree you should still maintain your boundaries both with your sister and your parents - steel in the velvet glove. 🌹

Such a relief for you. Tread carefully moving forward, you don’t need this much drama in your life

Thank you for updating, I had been thinking of you.

Now it’s over focus on you and your health.