Over 10 years ago while I was a student, a boy and I liked each other. We were drawn to each other and things were still in a delicate stage, but the mutual attraction was very strong.
I had a jealous roommate who thought that boy was cute. (She told me so). She was jealous of many people, and she often tried to start arguments.
One evening, my roommate came up to my room around 8/9pm while I was in my pjs. She said something very vague and confusing about how someone downstairs in our dorm was saying our group of friends should get to know theirs. I asked who and she said “I will tell you later”. She gave me a talk about how she thought we should just concentrate on spending time with our own friends. It was all so vague I had no way to know what she really meant, but I had a strange, sinking feeling. When she came back up she said “there, I think he understands”. I wondered who she meant - I asked - I wondered if it was the boy. She would not tell me.
The next morning I learned (from a real / honest friend) that boy had his friends had invited all of us out. She asked “why didn’t you go?” And i explained I didn’t even know about it.
After that, the boy stopped seeking me out. Rushed by me in the hallway. I wasn’t sure why. What had happened? I was young, naive and trusting. We had such chemistry. I always thought we would reconnect, but we never did.
I hadn’t thought of this in years, but it came back to me recently. All I had remembered was how much I had liked that boy, and I always wondered why we faded away from each other - I forgot about the friend - now, looking back in maturity, I know my roommate must have sabotaged the relationship. I have no doubt. Back then I didn’t really believe people could be so unkind, but now I know better. She misrepresented me completely and it was so unfair. I would have loved to go, to get to know that boy better. It’s so wrong of her.
I now have clarity. I don’t feel closure though. I hate that I was misrepresented and the guy was obviously hurt by what was said judging from what I remember about how he responded when he next saw me. This sad story bothers me. Would I be unreasonable to contact some of my old friends to try to gain closure? I feel most people wouldn’t be so bothered.