To think the father of my child is a narcissistic

[Daydreamer77]

Long story short, found out I was pregnant, boyfriend wasn't happy about it and said he would end relationship if I didn't get an abortion. I didn't so relationship ended. I was then blocked for months. He then decided he wanted to be involved after all so I said he could be. I am 8 weeks away from giving birth, he has bought nothing for the baby and hasn't helped with anything yet he is demanding that the baby is named after him and is calling me rude and disrespectful for objecting to this. He claims it is his "right to name his child"

Is this narcissistic behaviour?

Yep. He's a controlling prick. Stand your ground.

dowsnt matter whether it’s “narcissistic” behaviour, he’s a twat. Give your child your name and don’t put him on the birth certificate

He wants the baby to have his last name AND his name incorporated into her first name!! Can't believe the cheek of it all!!

Does it matter if he is? He's rude, unpleasant and controlling. Give the baby your surname, do t put him on the birth certificate, don't expect anything off him, apply through correct channels for CM and let him go through the courts for access.

Don't give in to this nonsense, whatever you do. He has no right whatsoever to insist that he has a say in choosing the baby's name, so don't let him browbeat you into it.

Just say im sorry. The baby is having my name. End of discussion

It really doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t particularly call him a narcissist though just because of how he wants to name his child.

You are in luck that you ultimately get to pick the baby name. It’s one of the few things you don’t have to compromise on for the next 18 years.

once he is legally recognized as the father, that changes. Your comment that “he decided he wanted to be involved so I said he could be” isn’t how this works. You can leave his name off the birth certificate, but it’s a very simple process for him to get himself added if he is serious about his role in his child’s life.

Being an arsehole isn't a diagnosis. But he definitely is one.

I hope you are not giving either of his names, not putting him on the BC, not having him at the birth and generally not pandering to his nonsense.

Don’t say sorry, you’re not doing anything unreasonable or worthy of an apology.

Narcissism is a personality disorder widely diagnosed on here for some reason and largely irrelevant.

He’s being ridiculous to think he can dictate anything to you and you’re asking for trouble by even discussing it with him. You know he’s a dick, cut him out, apply for child support once you’ve had the baby and wait for him to apply for contact through the courts which he’s unlikely to bother doing.

It doesn't matter whether he's a narcissist or not, what matters is that he's abusive. Follow @SherlockTomes excellent advice.

If you don't want financial support from him I would be tempted to disappear. He sounds like a massive creep and weirdo who I would not want around my child. I cant imagine the cheek demanding anything after how he has behaved.

Not particularly narcissistic no, just a twat.

keep a record of any abusive behaviour, calls etc and screenshot texts, with dates etc in case in future you will need them.

This.
Under no circumstances give the baby his name.

Also start putting down some firm boundaries.

He sounds like a creep.

Agree, be very wary.

Keep all proof of him being a creep.

Do not allow him near the birth, he will spoil it.

I’d text him…

Let me get this straight, you want me to name MY baby after you? The baby you told me to abort!!!

Step up and prove me and our child you will be a father, only then will I consider a name change! until then my baby will have the name I decide!!!

Don't know about narcissistic but he certainly qualifies as a first class twat. Get rid of him and don't let him near you or your baby