AIBU/justified to feel exhausted

[Ringo11]

So this is how things are at the moment...
I have a 9 month old dd and a 3.5 year old ds. Ds has suspected ADHD so his behaviour is a struggle at home.
I'm teaching 2.5 days a week (primary) and tutor 3 evenings a week when DH is back from work.
Plus doing planning and assessment for both roles.
Moved house about 6 months ago and still have a long list of jobs we're working on.
DH and I both have mental health issues and are on medication.

Plus all the usual stuff - cleaning, shopping, cooking etc etc.

Now I know that isn't awful at all. Before having children, I used to work 10/11 hour days, plus taking work home for evenings and weekends. I just don't remember feeling as exhausted by that as I do now. Admittedly, I was single in those days. And I totally acknowledge, school staff get the holidays so that is a bonus.

Maybe it's not so much am I being unreasonable but am I justified to say I feel exhausted? Someone commented to me recently that working 2.5 day a week was nothing, knowing the other things in my life. I wasn't complaining at all, just stating what I do. I guess it's subjective but I'm curious to know what others think?

Partly, I think I'm really hard on myself and feel like I should be able to juggle all the balls (if not more) in the air and feel OK with it all. Other people seem to have a lot more in their lives and cope better.

Any thoughts?

I don't think reasonableness or justification come into to it. If you feel exhausted, that's how you feel!

Apart from anything else, you have mental health issues and are on medication. There's no point comparing yourself with others who are not in that position.

It’s a lot and you need to give yourself a bloody break. You’re doing brilliantly juggling all of that. You’re not “only working 2.5 days”, that’s one of your jobs. Who is this tosser trying to make you feel bad?

You’ve got a baby, a toddler with additional needs and two jobs. Of course you’re exhausted!

Is your DH pulling his weight and do you ever get any time to yourself?

if you feel exhausted you feel exhausted, you don’t have to justify that to anyone, including yourself. Even if you did, you have a nine month old baby and a pre schooler, that would be tiring even without the jobs.

It was actually someone on mumsnet about a month ago that made that comment. So nobody I actually know but it just got me thinking.

DH is doing all he can but no, neither of us get much time to ourselves. Having said that, my family support when they can.

Tiredness is very subjective so I don't think you should care what others think.

Could it be related to your mental health or any other underlying medical condition? Do you have any other symptoms that would suggest that?

Have you had a check up at the GP recently? There are lots of things that could be making you exhausted that can be sorted out
thyroid
iron
ferritin
B12
D

and more…. I think you need some blood tests

That sounds like a huge load to me.

No wonder you are exhausted.

I definitely think my anxiety makes me feel more exhausted, it can be like dragging a heavy chain around.

No other health issues.

However, it's the teaching that really gets me exhausted at the moment. I wonder if it's because I'm with an older year group now with no LSA and a class of very needy children. In the past, I think I would have coped OK but now, coming back home to my little ones feels draining.

Can anyone relate?