AIBU to not have sex with my partner?

[Nicolelinda96]

Hi guys. I'm currently 37+6 pregnant, having a planned c section at 39+2. We has sex regularly throughout the later first and second trimester, and less during the early 3rd. But now my sex drive has completely died. I'm just not bothered and would rather kiss and cuddle. But I'm worried that my partner is getting sick of it now. Its probably been about 3 weeks. I feel like I should just get on with it, but the problem is that initiating always down to me, which makes it more difficult to gauge what he wants to do. Anyone else feel this way?

Either me nor my DH wanted it by that stage !

Me and then-husband had sex right up to a few hours before dd was born. Didn't occur to us not to. But it's a personal thing. Let him know how you're feeling.

31 weeks now and no sex the entire pregnancy. DH doesn’t care. Bigger things going on like growing a baby and our first child hopefully arriving safely.

it doesn’t matter. The poster above who did it right up to child being born isn't even with her DH anymore so not really a indicator of anything about your relationship.

Well he doesn't initiate but he sometimes thrusts against me while we're cuddling or slaps my bum.

Fucking hell that's grim.

But you are making the first move. Why aren’t you communicating

Put your anxiety on the back burner.if you didn't have anxiety do you think you would still be thinking this judging by your current feeling between you.if not you need to work on those ruminating thoughts and not listening to them.
You do need to talk to him.at the very least tell him your over think it.so it doesn't even need to be an anxious sex want talk,more that you worried your not giving him what he wants and or if things are ok between you.your worrying over failing him in some way.

Have you asked him whether he wants to have sex or not?

Are you worried what he might say, and how this might make you feel? If he wants to have sex and you do not, you do not have to go ahead and have sex, even if you discuss it. You might feel more confident getting the intimacy you need at the moment if you have a conversation about where you are both at. He might feel better too, it is not uncommon for men to feel uncertain about having sex with their pregnant wives.

He’s not initiating sex, you don’t want sex…. Everything is glorious surely?

At some point (not now as it’s not a problem because neither of you want sex) it would be worth talking about why you always have to initiate it. Does he not enjoy it, is there an issue? No pressure, just an honest discussion with the man who you swap bodily fluids with.