Too nice

[Socks35]

Ok so I realise I could look like a total cow in this thread but I promise I’m not!
so I met someone some months ago and it all started off really well, we got along great and it moved pretty fast.
The problem that I have is that after so much time together I have really taken a dip in my feelings, the guy is just too nice!
I feel really bad because in theory he’s the perfect guy but in reality it’s too much. He wants to be with me all the time! Buys flowers and nice things, takes me out but agrees with me with everything and keeps saying he’s scared of losing me.
now I know this all sounds lovely but it’s really irritating me to the point I just want to be on my own! He would literally do anything for me, it’s pushing me away.
I met his daughter who clearly has no boundaries in place either and he gives in to everything she wants and she knows it and as a result is a bit of a brat.

Im just scared that if I end it I’m going to regret it as past relationships have been with men that didn’t treat me right. But surely I need a balance? Is that too much to ask for am I being silly in considering throwing it away? I’m really confused he’s essentially done nothing wrong and I feel really guilty for feeling like this 😕

He sounds really clingy which in itself is a bit of a red flag.

I don’t think the issue is that he’s too nice - it’s just his main personality traits irritating you because deep down you’ve realised he’s not the one for you.
It he was a bit of an arse, you’d probably have less conflict about ending things (plus possibly self esteem issues that make you think you feel more than you do), but because he’s so nice it’s making you question yourself and feel guilty.
The fact he is so nice and loving might make you want to give it a little longer just to make sure, but not too much longer as it’s not a great idea to stick it out if you’ve gone off him.

Look up 'love bombing', it is a red flag. Bombarding you with presents and attention, and then saying he is afraid of loosing you are all traits of an abuser. Trust your instincts.

I don’t think we should jump to ‘future abuser’ assumptions just yet!
My husband was OTT nice to me in the beginning but it didn’t annoy me as he was the right one for me.
It levelled out over time, and he is still lovely and a real gentleman but also stands up for himself and has his own opinions.
The fact this man has self esteem issues isn’t necessarily a red flag, as maybe he has been hurt before. But just because someone is a nice person, doesn’t mean they are right for you.