AIBU to find DD birthday so depressing

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It’s yet another reminder of how isolated we are she has three birthday cards, no one else has even messaged to say happy birthday, I’ve been trying to hold it together and make it a happy celebration for her and the whole time it’s just crushing me with how lonely and isolated we are.

Sorry that you're isolated.

How old is she? Can't you invite her school friends for a party?

How isolated are you?
How old is your daughter?

It's great that you have a healthy daughter OP. I hope you enjoyed her birthday. Why are you so isolated? Do you mean socially, geographically, culturally?

How old is your dd? Why are you isolated? We have experience of isolated birthdays and Christmas too, I just do small things to make it nice for us, try not to think too much about what you don't have. You are the most important person for dd so I'm sure you can make her feel good, don't let her know you are feeling down. Happy birthday to your dd 💕

She wants to go on a day out with one friend at the weekend rather than a party.

Isolated as we only have one family member and no family friends.

Do you/does she want it to be different? We were pretty isolated when I was growing up but it didn’t bother my parents so there was no desire for it to be different.

I’m a single parent, so isolated by that and I have no friends despite having 100s of acquaintances

Im sure your daughter has had a fabulous birthday.

No offence but kids don’t really care how many friends their parents have! So long as she’s got friends she’s happy with, she’ll be totally fine

Totally understandable if you feel a little sad about being isolated yourself- being a single parent is hard work!- but I wouldn’t worry about your daughter at all.

Happyyyy 3rd birthday to your daughter!! X

Like others here, I doubt she minds. But it does sound lonely for you. Do bear in mind, the pandemic will have made the past two years much worse than the near future is likely to be -- especially as within a year she'll start school, opening up whole new relationships for both of you.

Meanwhile,

Is she bothered? Birthday cards aren't really a 'thing' anymore for many kids, and she doesn't want a party, wants to spend the day with a friend- as long as she is happy, and has a nice day, I don't see that there is anything to feel sorry about.

I don’t think she is 3! She got 3 birthday cards.

I could’ve wrote your post. I’m the same, no family or friends. Lots of people I know but not friends.

Happy birthday to your daughter op

How old is she ? I genuinely think that anyone whatever their age people only get cards if there has been a party etc !

She will be happy to spend it with you.

If it helps, I am an isolated single mum. No family, useless ex, moved quite far right before covid and only just making new local friends. DD however is shockingly popular- I don’t know how she does it. She walks into a room and everyone lights up, always been that way. It’s a gift. She has soo many school friends.

Even so- I asked her what she wanted to do for her bday. She wanted to go on a day trip with me.

Spending your special day with the person who treasures that day the most… it’s special enough for her. You loving her and giving her all that attention is enough.

Thanks sadly I had to work so didn’t get much time with her, I just find it hard when everyone elses kids seem to have loads of people who care about them.