To not want my bosses to call me a "good girl".

[Theheartandtheshape]

I'll keep my job private for the sake of not being identified.

I asked my boss how he was today, and he put his arm round me, thanked me for asking and called me a "good girl".

I've also had another boss call me a "good girl" but then get flustered and self-correct to "good woman!".

I'm not a person who makes a fuss over little things but it seems an odd comment to make to a professional woman in her mid 30s.

Would it bother you?

I’d be hugely unimpressed.

Calling adult women ‘girls’ is rude & infantilising, & several times worse when it’s done in a work context.

Unless you’ve heard your boss calling your male colleagues ‘good boys’ but somehow I doubt it.

Good girl is only OK for small children and golden retrievers.
Not sure how I'd address it though. With luck, it might have been a one-off.

I do a very passive aggressive roll-eyes whenever I get called girl, doesn't happen often now.

My boss is a woman, my colleagues are women. I.am.a.woman. I never call someone at work a girl... it is not that hard.

I'd be infuriated. I'm not a child 😕do you have a HR department?

I had a (genuinely) lovely boss who said 'good girl' to me once.

I told him I wasn't a Labrador.

He never said it again

I’m 50, there’s a new staff member of a similar age who keeps telling people he’s passing them over to the “girl in marketing” when he puts a call through to me. I’m now referring to him as “our boy in valuations”.
I would be massively unimpressed with someone saying Good Girl, or putting their arm around me. I’m not a fan of “love” either.

"Thanks sonny"

blinking wide eyes "why thank you, daddy"

"Girl?"

"Thank you. Can't wait til I grow up!"

Any of those delivered lightly, with a smile

Nothing verbal, but hard stare, raised eyebrow

he is being very inappropriate. he should not be touching you. does he do this to everyone. language is also terrible. make notes and talk to hr.