I broke down crying in work today

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My colleagues are driving me crazy 😢

Two of them who I work most closely with are so negative, they moan constantly. They can't deal with the manager asking them to do something and get so easily offended they then spend the whole day moaning.
One colleague applies for jobs nearly every month but then turns them down if she gets them constantly moans about the company and is just so draining.
I just can't cope with them anymore I have some personal issues going on and go to work to try and forget about them and be positive. I suffer with anxiety and they make it worse.

AIBU to feel like this?

Are you office based, or more active? If you are office-based, could you wear headphones to shut out the whining? If you are in a more mobile job,try to make sure you are always working as far away from them as possible.

Failing that, just lose your shit with them and tell them to STFU!

Do you have to stand/sit there listening to them? Are you not able to walk off, if it is too much?

@emuloc I try and distance myself as much as possible but just 5 minutes a day with them is draining 😫

That sounds really hard. Some people are just draining, and negative. You may just have to learn to zone out when they start.

Headphones on OP, concentrate on your work and then get some fresh air at lunchtime. Big smile each morning, cheery Bye when you leave at night.

And quietly apply for other jobs in the evening.

@MintJulia
I can't use headphones whilst working unfortunately. I enjoy the role and worry about applying for jobs. I have a long term health condition and have been with the company 10 years so get good sick pay if needed.

I haaaaaate people like this at work; the ones who only applied because they needed to pay their bills and give zero shits about what we’re trying to do.

you end up dragging them through every tiny fucking detail again and again because they didn’t listen because they’re not interested really, just wanna moan

I imagine the top paragraph is a large majority of working people! Especially in some lower paid roles.

Agree people acting this way is annoying though!

Urghh emotional vampires. Spend a bit of time on Google lots of sites offering tips on dealing with them at work. They piss me right off, when you're dealing with stress, anxiety, depression the last thing you need is them sucking the life out of you.

Counter whatever they say negative with something a bit silly and positive and then say gotta dash to the loo. That’s what I do the colleague that uses me as an emotional dumping ground. I really like her but my own cup is overflowing and they never seem to ask if you’re okay these types!

Feel your pain, have been there, and quite possibly been guilty of that behaviour too. If you can't wear headphones you need to somehow try to reduce their chatter to white noise, maybe if they get the idea you aren't listening/interested they'll stop being so vocal? Do you have a line manager or someone that you can quietly mention 'staff morale' to?

YANBU OP. Hug for you

I sat in my car in the work car park and sobbed for 10 minutes today. Different circumstances but equally frustrating. It's ok to let it out sometimes (I actually felt much calmer for the rest of the day)