Saying DP cant work

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Dp & i have a baby on the way, i have a child from a previous, as does he.

My dc's birthday is a week before I'm due to give birth, it will be a small garden party, about 6 kids nothing crazy, but there will be a pool, games etc, then the usual party food. That is the Saturday.

The Sunday we will do a lunch with family for it.

(This is of course only if baby hasn't arrived early)

Dp asked if he could work overtime that weekend, as dc wouldn't care if he was at party, will be having too much fun.

I said no as i will need help with set up being 9 months preg, plus just managing 6 kids will be a-lot.

He asked what about just the Sunday, but then he is missing her family bday meal...

So i said no as not really ideal.

I feel a bit guilty but it would be weird if other family members came and he didn't! Plus how would dc feel!

I feel like it wouldn't be an option if it was his own dc, so it hurts that its ok for mine!

AIBU?

Do you need the extra money for the new baby?

It depends really on whether you need the money from his over time.

We would be ok without, but of course extra money is always good.

But no not essential

I'd feel the same as you. Plus I'd be pissed if he wanted to leave me to manage all that a week before my due date. YANBU

Yeah I think he's BU, you want him to think of your child as part of his family, probably especially since you have a new baby with him on the way? I get why you're a bit sad about that

He'd be silly to plan to work because if the baby came in the days before the party/meal, he'd be looking after DCs, doing the party, making lunch on Sunday, trying to take you to hospital, and possibly bring you home and look after you and the new baby, so I don't know when he thinks he can work after all that.

Seeing as it would probably cause bother for his employer if he agreed to work and then either had to cancel or walk out when the baby comes, it's probably best if he just gives it a miss this time.