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Were they rude? (Parking in a cul-de-sac)

24 replies

Turkeylegs101 · 11/05/2022 18:49

I live in a small cul-de sac and each house has their own driveway (which can fit around 2 cars each). Some visitors have been really inconsiderate at times and literally parked in the middle of the street (despite there being space on the road outside as it is a long road with plenty of on street parking available) so nobody can get in/out. There has been a few incidents where I've had to park on this street as I've not been able to access my drive.

For example, today I came home from work and there was a car parked in the middle of the cul-de-sac again, dropping off my next door neighbour (who I do get on with). She was half parked on my neighbours drive and half on the street, but blocking my drive. I pulled in and sat there for a few minutes, and could see them both sat there talking. They didn't attempt to move (all she had to do was drive forward onto the drive. She would have had to of done this any way to get out unless I'd reversed all the way out to let her pass me) so I honked my horn to make them aware that I was there waiting. They still didn't move and just continued to talk. Not knowing how long they would be, I reversed out and ended up having to park across the street again and walk down to my house. As I was passing their car they both looked at me and smiled, completely oblivious to the whole situation Confused. I had to bite my tongue.

As she was reversing out, I walked up to move my car and she just looked at me again but didn't bother to apologise.

Was I impatient and being unreasonable, or were they rude?

OP posts:
Oneforposy7 · 11/05/2022 18:50

Why didn't you ask them to move?

StCharlotte · 11/05/2022 18:50

They were rude but why didn't you just ask her to move?

Awrite · 11/05/2022 18:53

I would have knocked on the window and asked her to move forward a bit so that I could access my driveway. Job done.

NannyR · 11/05/2022 18:53

I would have just wound the window down and asked her to pull forward.

Turkeylegs101 · 11/05/2022 18:54

In hindsight, I should have just got out and asked them, but I wasn't sure what their reaction would be after I'd honked at them. I did think bibbing my horn would make it obvious that I needed them to move so I could access the drive... but I guess not!

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Ilikewinter · 11/05/2022 19:01

Yep she was an arse, we live on a close and our NDN has a family member who ALWAYS blocks our drive when they visit, even though they have absolutely no need to...it drives me insane, if people park considerately theres enough room for everyone!
In your case today I would have interrupted them and asked her to shift, if she didnt I would have parked behind her and blocked her in!

Darkstar4855 · 11/05/2022 19:11

I would have gone and spoken to them when they still didn’t move after you sounded the horn.

Aprilx · 11/05/2022 19:13

I think honking at a neighbour was a bit rude. I would have got out and asked.

GabriellaMontez · 11/05/2022 19:15

Aprilx · 11/05/2022 19:13

I think honking at a neighbour was a bit rude. I would have got out and asked.

Not as rude as knowingly blocking a neighbours drive and continuing to do so when you know they're waiting.

GabriellaMontez · 11/05/2022 19:16

You should have blocked her in. These kind of people speak another language.

hellcatspanglelalala · 11/05/2022 19:17

They were being totally unreasonable, and tbh I'd have just leaned out and asked them to move.

Turkeylegs101 · 11/05/2022 19:36

Do you really think so @Aprilx ? I did sit there for a few minutes and waited beforehand, and tbh I'm not sure how they didn't notice that I was there (I would notice a huge car behind me). I only honked at it was easier than getting out and knocking on the window, but even then they ignored me and continued to talk

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ShirleyPhallus · 11/05/2022 19:39

I’d have exercised a progressively more aggressive series of moves:


  • honked with a friendly smile

  • rolled down my window and asked them to move

  • got out and asked them to move

  • sat on the horn until they moved


rude fuckers but yet another thread where the OP could get the result they want by just being more assertive!

Georgeskitchen · 11/05/2022 19:40

You should of sat on the horn till the ignorant mare shifted her car

MrsLargeEmbodied · 11/05/2022 20:05

it doesnt sound they were intentionally rude, just a big ignorant of your intentions.

GarlicGnocchi · 11/05/2022 20:09

You're not supposed to beep your horn for this sort of thing.

PowerfulWombSpaceRespector · 11/05/2022 20:14

GarlicGnocchi · 11/05/2022 20:09

You're not supposed to beep your horn for this sort of thing.

Fuck that, I'd've been leaning on it until they got out of the way.

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2022 20:23

Turkeylegs101 · 11/05/2022 18:54

In hindsight, I should have just got out and asked them, but I wasn't sure what their reaction would be after I'd honked at them. I did think bibbing my horn would make it obvious that I needed them to move so I could access the drive... but I guess not!

Of course you should have.

I never understand these threads - don't just sit there, do something!

SamMil · 11/05/2022 20:28

I wouldn't honk my horn at a neighbour (I'd probably give the benefit of the doubt initially & assume they were deep in conversation and didn't register me waiting).

I'd have got out of the car and ask them to pull forward so I could get to my driveway.

Aprilx · 12/05/2022 13:43

GabriellaMontez · 11/05/2022 19:15

Not as rude as knowingly blocking a neighbours drive and continuing to do so when you know they're waiting.

Yes that is rude. But so is honking your horn at neighbours! Do you have to drag it down to who is the most rude?

I’d have beeped at someone I didn’t know and I wouldn’t have even sat there for a few minutes waiting. Bu for neighbours, I would have immediately got out and asked them if they could kindly move out of the way.

girlmom21 · 12/05/2022 13:55

I'd have probably sat there for longer if you'd beeped your horn at me rather than just speaking to me - especially if we get on.

Wafflesnsniffles · 12/05/2022 14:03

"You're not supposed to beep your horn for this sort of thing."

People arent supposed to block someone elses drive/the road either but they do!

A honk on the horn seems reasonable enough to me.

NoSquirrels · 12/05/2022 14:05

I had to bite my tongue.

This is where you went wrong.

Pingboo · 12/02/2023 01:42

install some removable bollards at the very Edge of your part of the driveway Accurately.. and lock in place when you leave so they can’t park?

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