Worried about DD friend TW child sexualization

[Fdora]

My instincts are telling me something is not right with the home environment of my DD'd friend (age 7)

A number of things have me really concerned but the major ones is how she's allowed to watch horrors aimed at adults (think Chucky and the like)

But the most alarming is some of the stuff she said like how her father was telling her about genital piercings.

Today she was playing with my DD electric tooth brush (minus tooth brush head) and when I walked in to remove it she switched it on and started joking about putting it in the a dolls privates!!

This in my mind is not typical humor for a seven year old and has me worried about the child's safety (certainly won't let my DD go over there again) but what should I do about my concerns, if anything?

Ring the school, ring the nspca. Do it first thing in the morning.

Contact DSL of child’s school (usually headteacher in primary) tomorrow morning and share what you have here.

Thanks for the advice, glad I'm not overreacting

This is so upsetting to read and very concerning and yes you need to speak to the school and SS.

Has your own child mentioned anything after visits to the other child’s home?

Thankfully no my child hasn't mentioned anything alarming after playing over there

Call SS and the school OP and do not let your child play there unsupervised again.

you are right to be wary. There is something off. I used to say really inappropriate things at 7, which if anyone had actually been listening to me would have alerted people to the fact that home life was not right.

There are things you should as a parent legally protect young children from, and something it's going wrong in that girls homelife as she's being exposeded to sexual matters that are beyond her years.

Yeah, worrying, I'd suspect watching porn might be at least part of what's going on.

I found working in a school that a lot of kids are allowed to watch very adult things, there were nine year olds watching GoT and that didn't seem uncommon. But there seems to be more going on here.

I would not let my child go there, I would also not invite child again to mine and report. X

@allboysherebutme

OK I get the not letting your child go round to her friends, but why would you stop the friend coming to yours?

That's punishing, and isolating, a potential abuse victim for being abused surely? And if the poor child is being abused I think I'd want her to know that a least 1 adult gave a shit and that there was somewhere she knew she was safe.

Is the concern that the abuse would rub off on your child or something? Plus they are 7, the OP can just make sure she's always in sight / earshot of the two of them playing together. Have them running around the back yard or sitting at the dining room table colouring in or whatever so she can keep track of what's going on.

But not have her around because she showing signs of abuse? Really?

@allboysherebutme

Plus as a child it was only when I went to other children's houses that I began to realise that mine was not normal and that my friends weren't beaten regularly, shut in the spence, made to do all the cooking and cleaning, shouted at and raped.

Speak to the safeguarding lead at school when you drop dd off. Tell them everything. And ask them for the best SS phone number. Both people spoken to this morning.

Have a think if there are any other events or things she has said for concern. Write down exactly what happened/was said- no more no less. You won't be needing to talk to the child or their family about this.

You are absolutely right to have concerns, hopefully there is just something mildly inappropriate, but potentially it could be much worse.

@Fdora Where you able to speak to someone? This has been on my mind!

@Boiledbeetle I'm sorry you experienced all of that in your childhood.
My mother and father had similar and would say they realised at other kids homes that things weren't normal.

Please don't stop her coming round, but yes, definitely report it to the school and ask to keep it anonymous if possible when they report it on. Poor little girl, somethings definitely off.

That’s not normal. Report.

Oh god that is very worrying. Report it to nspcc, social services & the school in the hope that at least 1 of them will follow up the concern.

Why would you not allow her to come to yours anymore? That’s just cruel

has there been any developments??