Losing the will..toddler bedtime

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No AIBU I just need help! My 2 yr old recently started escaping from her cot so I did what I did with my other kids 9 & 11 and moved her to a bed-less dangerous than scaling cot bars 100 times a night. I am now losing the will and just want to run away bedtimes are so awful 😫😫😫😫😫😫
My DH is away at mo so I’ve no help. She just won’t stay in bed…last few nights she’s ended up passing out in my bed eventually and is like a bag of cats the next day because she’s so tired. Please please remind me of how to deal with this phase!?

Seems like she isn't ready to sleep on her own. My ds was like this till 4. No matter what he came into our bed every night. So we just decided to not fight this battle and let him sleep with us. He is now almost 6yo and goes into bed, reads till he feels sleepy and even puts his light off.

Stair gate on her door?

Following..I fear this time is coming.

I have blocked all this out, but the stair gate in the bedroom door might be a good idea.

can you stay lying down with her until she is asleep?

Thanks for your reply @MarJau26
Before she started escaping though she used to go to sleep just fine on her own. I do remember a long phase of having to lie with middle child to get to sleep but I’ve been trying that this time to no avail.
When you say you let him sleep with you, would you go to bed earlier or would he go later? And how did that impact life in general-tiredness for your DS if later, losing downtime/tidy up time for you if earlier?

@APurpleSquirrel I like the stair gate idea but given she was well able to scale a cot, I fear she’d be over it like a whippet. My oldest suggested a cot with bars up to the ceiling😂

Stair gate on her room and I used controlled crying techniques

This is exactly what we have to do; stair gate and lie with him til he falls asleep.

Keep returning back to bed, over and over and over. Will take a few days.

So initially we would put him to bed in his own room and then a 2 hour battle ensued. He would fall asleep and them at some point come into our room. He would then be awake at this point and so would dh and I, we were all Exhausted the next day. We then brought his bed into our room and he was able to fall asleep fine on his own. This may not be ideal but it saved our sanity. Sorry I feel your pain, we also had a battle. Can you pin point anything that changed when your dd stopped sleeping on her own?

I think we did this for months and it didn't work.

I just closed the bedroom door! She couldn’t open it so just got back into bed again!! I’ve had 4 girls and the 4th was the only one that ever got out of bed! Possibly because she had a duvet sooner than the others!

How did it not work? What did you do and where did they eventually fall asleep?