To ask for help to get through the next ten weeks

[Zonedout56]

Need some ideas to help me get through the next 10 weeks at work.
I'm approaching the anniversary of my mums death and unfortunately have attracted the attention of sly workplace bully.
Colleague has form for picking on and isolating one member of staff at a time and it would seem it's my turn.
I've tried everything,ignoring her, asking her direct what the problem is and avoiding her.
Some examples are emailing everyone about a gift we are buying for a pregnant team member, except me. Walking out of a room when I walk in , only talking to me when I talk to her , not making eye contact.
Have literally not done anything to her, when I asked she couldn't say anything or give an example.
Everything shes doing is sly so not to be caught out . It's making me even more stressed in a time I could do without it.
I only have ten weeks then dont have to work that closely again with her.
Can anyone give me some coping techniques?

Fuck that. What you are describing is workplace bullying and I wouldn't stand for it.....
So sorry to hear about the anniversary that is approaching, and you are obviously feeling vulnerable and sad......but find your anger!!

She sounds like an absolute cunt, and I would be singing from the rooftops about what she is doing to anyone that'll listen!!

Tell HR/ your manager/ do it officially.....and if you're struggling to do it for yourself, do it for the next person she's going to bully xxx

You just have to ignore totally and try not to let it get to you

What you describe is unpleasant but childish - so they leave the room - good riddance

You could joke with the last victim that's it's your turn now

Call her out very, very politely and very very publicly every single time.

Eg. Hey bully you seem to have left my name off the collection email for pregnant lady ? Please can you forward it to me so I don't have to be left out?

Every single time. Bullies operate in the shadows and don't like to be exposed.

But be very very polite. Then go to the loos and cry a bit. This will pass.

I agree you have to stand up to her. Personally I would make a joke, so when she leaves, "oh leaving again Joan? Bye then" and lightheartedly ask the others if they have noticed this behaviour. If she only talks to you when you talk to her, I'd talk to her more. And tell her that you've noticed she doesn't seem able to look up and that you're concerned she's got a stiff neck or something.

It’s not that sly if she has form for cycling round the team doing this.
Speak to your manager.
Where it’s concrete (even if you can’t prove her intention) call her out.
Email all: “hey all, Sally missed me off the collection email so looping myself in - please reply all to this for any further discussion.”

My question is why is someone like that still n a workplace?. Tell your manager!

Take that shit straight to a manager. Explain that you have enough on your plate and you don't appreciate being the current target.

Keep a diary of times and dates and take it to your line manager. You don't have to put up with bullying. You've tried to address it yourself and she's still doing it. If your manager doesnt listen do you have a HR dept?

Sorry should of said manager loves her ,well they love not being her next target. Often wonder what dirt she has on them !

If you put it in writing to your manager, she will have to deal with it. If she's friends with the bully then make sure everything is in writing.

After experience of this kind of "sly bullying" I would advise - start keeping a diary of every occurrence, no matter how small it seems at the time, find a trusted colleague who can be a witness to what is happening & can support what's in your diary, speak to HR - take your trusted colleague with you.

I had the exact same thing in my old place, one particular women who would take turns bullying someone because they had been in the role 20 years and thought anyone new entering the office was a threat.

I lost my patience with her rude tone one day, and told her infront of everyone that 'i am not speaking to you like a piece of shit so would expect the same respect back, if your not capable then wait until you find manners and then we will speak'

Funnily enough she was nice as pie after that

The more you let it bother you, the worse she is going to get. That being said she is bullying you and you can take it further if you wish. You have tried speaking with her and understanding what the issue is but it seems that she just wants a bit of attention.

Sounds like she really needs to grow up!