I HAVE been unreasonable

[mycat22]

So I am currently pregnant and have the best partner I could ask for. I have been monumentally idiotic.

This morning I have been going through our outgoings in prep for mat leave etc and went on his phone contract to change it to SIM only to save some money. He knows I have access to this obviously! So I see a charge outside the normal allowance and it's a picture message to a random number. Automatically I think the worst so withhold my number and ring it and it's a woman that answers. I am scared and just hang up. Writing this I feel like an idiot and some flipping immature child. I am thinking he is cheating. Now please believe me when I say I am normally not a paranoid idiot but I think it's feeling fat and unattractive with no sex life which is making me think the worst.

So I ring him, at work, and he says it was a picture of tools he wanted which he send to the store woman at work - he has screenshotted me the text conversation and also her number on a written letter from work (which is to do with the process of ordering tools i.e texting her!!) I feel like such an idiot and awful that I ever doubted him.

He is mad at me now.

Funny side not grubby side

@mycat22 You poor thing ❤ I think everyone can relate to an unfortunate overreaction and feeling silly afterwards! Please don't beat yourself up about it.

You've apologised already over the phone/text, and when he gets home you can reiterate your apology in person if you want to, but you definitely don't need to grovel, or apologise constantly and I am sure by the time he gets home your partner will have calmed down too. Pregnancy is an emotional time for everyone involved and his frustration was probably borne of panic that something had happened to you and the baby.

Hopefully you can both laugh about this soon and put it behind you. It really doesn't need to be a big deal.

So you would expect your partner to inform you if they send a picture message to a number you don't know.?

Not inform me, but if I happened to come across it (my husband and I do use each other's phones from time to time because mine's an I-phone and his is a Samsung so they have different strengths and weaknesses) I would probably ask about it in a casual way, and not expect a big drama from him.

Thank you so much everyone 🙂 I have spoken to my OH and he has calmed down now and told me to forget about it. He understands it's pregnancy hormones as he knows me well enough to know I am not normally so paranoid!! Said he just wants to give me a hug now!

Oh that's good news! You had a bit of a crazy pregnant lady moment, it happens, glad everything's OK now.

Thats lovely! You sound like you have one of the good ones! 💗

Awww what a lovely update.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well op