I needed some advice not sure if this is the right place to post. Please remove if not.
Couple months ago became a mom to my second child.
Bit of background I have been bbf for almost 20 years with my friend and whenever I visit my home town make it a point to visit her and when her son was born I did the same and have always made the effort to keep in touch and arrange visits.
I had severe depression after the birth of my first born and found it difficult to reach out to her as she lived in my hometown and I in London and therefore became a bit of an introvert.
About 2 years ago we met up during her pregnancy and she mentioned how she hardly sees me and that was when I mentioned about my depression. She began crying and profusely apologetic and saying she feels terrible as being my best friend I have always been there for her however she couldn't do the same for me. I said I understand and that being a first time parent was a shock to me and therefore didn't think she would understand.
Fast forward to current time
She contacted when my second baby was born and said she really wants to come see the baby and would love to come with husband and son therefore suggested a weekend as that's when my husband is also free.
I suggested a few dates which she said she would discuss with OH and get back to me.
Fast forward 4 months later she messages apologising that she has just been busy with family events and stuff and feels horrible not having met us and would now like to come up on her own to visit me and baby.
I personally feel quite hurt as yes we all sre busy but it's taken her 4 months to even message to ask how I am doing?
I had replied back saying I am busy atm have a lot going on which isn't a lie as my baby has multiple hospital appointments due to a congenital condition she was born with. But since then I haven't wanted to message her anymore and neither has she
Am I being unreasonable?
Thanks in advance