Nursery manager so rude

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My DS nursery manager is so rude.
I am moving in 6 weeks. I used to have a fantastic work nursery but changed to current one due to wfh and the other nursery being too far.
I knew I was leaving due to family breakdown so never changed nursery although I wasn’t happy.
My DS has never settled there. I think his behaviour is not ideal. I try my best but he just doesn’t want to go and I dread picking him
up because they never say anything positive just complain. because of this I have stopped taking him Unless I really have too for work meetings. Due to this the manager is always complaining. I have tried to take him his three days but it’s so painful the tantrums and also the telling off from the manager.

today I am so upset by her attitude. All this involves shouting at me at the door. I could take some complaints / criticism but not the over the top shouting at me. Today she is blaming me for sons behaviour. I don’t want to write direct quotes in case it’s outing but she was basically Saying I am not loving him in the right way. Saying she is considering telling the LA although I am moving in a few weeks. Ever since he started she has criticised DS because he was a
bit immature doesn’t like sitting learning. The other members of staff say nothing someone told Me they have been told not to talk to parents but I’m not sure if this is true. They seem to have a fair turn over of staff. There are some negative reviews on line about the managers rudeness.

AIBU it’s all my fault I am a awful person?

AINBU there is no excuse for unprofessional ranting and shouting at parents in front of other parents and DS.

yes I know I should have taken him out earlier but I thought I could move before know. How could I get a nanny or emergency childminder for three mornings before end of may?

I think more info is needed as this sounds very odd.

In what way is she holding you responsible for the behaviour of your son?

She shouldn't be shouting at you, at all.

What was the reason behind her saying you don't love him the right way?

All sounds bizarre

What does she want to complain to the LA about? Of course she shouldn't be shouting at you publicly from the doorway, and I personally wouldn't take my child back there if things had broken down with them so much. Whether she has any valid concerns or not, I can't tell as very little of this makes much sense without any context.

She shouted at you in front of other parents? That’s really not normal behaviour… think we need further context

her Main complaint I think ; is he doesn’t want to go in.
wont join in all the activities
cries a lot gets angry at drop off needs attention to settle
i don’t bring him on all his days ( I’ve tried but it never gets better) so he won’t settle

i don’t want to give any outing information .

She is quite shouty in general
there are some reviews on line and other parents have complained about her rude and aggressive manner

It sounds like a bonkers setup in general!

She shouldnt be shouting at you but by the sounds of it you're not taking your son consistently, therefore he can't settle and
adjust which probably causes a lot of upset for everyone involved (mainly your son!). I think I can understand her frustration as the situation doesn't sound like it will improve without you changing anything.

Yes I tried to bring him consistently but he never got any better at drop off.
I think I could be at fault but I just feel her attitude and behaviour is difficult.
I know avoid going there because every time I do I get some sort of lecture or report of his bad behaviour.

can You get ad hoc nanny or childminders? For a few days before I move?

Fuck that, get ur child
Out of
There and put in an official compliant urself, who does she think
She is?

She is there to provide a service and be a professional, wtf is she doing when no parents are there if thats how she shouts to ur face.
Sorry but wouldn't be me, get him out, children react for a reason, he is trying to tell u something, if she has a valid reason to raise a concern, first stop is with u, not LA, and done in a calm and respectful manner. Then to from there.
She sounds an absolute friitloop.

With the manager speaking to you like that, no wonder why there is complaints and your dc hates going there so much. Children sense things, listen to it and children thrive when they feel love, encouragement and reassurance. Also I don't understand why she would think that you don't love your child? Either way, just find a more loving and caring nursery who would work with you and your child and look at how the toddlers seem there whether they are happy and engaged in or ignored.