Acceptable? Or AIBU

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Long term partner has form for intimidating me behavior when we are are having a disagreement. He has not physically hurt me but lunges towards me and likes to see me shocked or scared. He sees nothing wrong with this and it is extremely triggering for me. I want to leave but then he cries. AIBU?

You're unreasonable to stay with this dickhead.

He likes to see you shocked and scared and you’re asking if it’s ok to leave? Is it not obvious?

Honestly do you actually not know if YABU or not??

Leaving aside the fact that he likes to scare you (which is horrible) if you want to leave or break up with someone for ANY reason then you do it. You don't need to justify it. This doesn't have to reach some threshold for it to be an ok reason to leave. He'll cry. He'll get over it. But if you don't want to be in the relationship then just don't be.

He likes to see you scared wtf?? Get away from him

OP,

He wants to intimidate you and does.

Why on earth would you stay with a man who would do this?

Are you waiting around to see if he will hit you?

He cries?

Who cares.

You need to take a long hard look at your choices that you would put up with this a second time.

Anyone with cop on would be gone the minute this happened.

Totally unforgivable with NO second chances.

You are very foolish to be wasting time on someone who deliberately intimidates you.

Where on earth can you imagine a relationship with a waster like this will go?

YABU to stay with him.

YANBU to leave him.

Is that you Amber?

Could he just have a bad sense of humour OP?

Have you told him you don't like him making you shocked?

surely it's every man's right to use their larger masculine physique to intimidate women into submission, especially when they are 'provoked, at least that's what I've been reading on mumsnet alot lately

Wtf?! How can you possibly doubt yourself about this, or even think of staying with someone who behaves like this?

I mean... seriously, read again what you posted- 'He likes to see me shocked or scared'. Ffs. Why would someone enjoy intimidating and scaring the person they're supposed to love?! Answer: because they're an abusive arsehole.

You’re being abused. You should leave him.

Go. Go now! Go quick!

This will get worse, one day he won't just lunge. Get out now.

I would say, yes go and go soon. But in a calm and collected manner, with a plan in place.

Anyone who likes to see you shocked or scared isn't a nice person