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Dusty rage

23 replies

Knifer · 09/05/2022 13:43

I've cleaned everything for D/ mum to come stay tomorrow. Everything is shining.

I came home from doing a bit of food shopping and my front door is open, what looks like smoke is billowing out of it and DH is standing there. I asked wtf happened.

He finally decided to sand back the old wall in the kitchen he had filled about a month ago. Without the hoover attachment on the sander. Everything is covered with white dust. Everything. He didn't close any doors downstairs. All the windows, all the surfaces, all the floors, the sofa, DS's toys, the coats hanging in the hallway....... even the cake I've baked that was cooling on the top of the oven

I just cried. DH looked utterly ashamed, but said "it's only dust, it'll wipe off"

Then I was angry and I still am. ONLY dust EVERYWHERE on EVERYTHING when I've spent the last week getting everything sorted for HIS MUM!!!

AIBU to piss off out for the day even though I will die of anxiety not knowing if it's all sorted? Leaving him to "wipe off" every inch of the ground floor of our house?

😡😡

OP posts:
Beamur · 09/05/2022 13:45

What a twit.
Leave him to clean it. It'll wipe off...

PleasantBirthday · 09/05/2022 13:46

Well, book a few films at the cinema, he's got a lot to do.

Kat1953 · 09/05/2022 13:46

Absolutely NBU

He'd best pull out all the stops!

Mymindisnotmyown · 09/05/2022 13:47

This has given me the rage on your behalf.

I would go and have a long bath and pamper while he cleans it all.

TeaStory · 09/05/2022 13:49

I’d have gone apeshit!

Throckmorton · 09/05/2022 13:52

Awful. I sure as heck would not eat that cake either!

Scianel · 09/05/2022 14:01

I'm surprised he manages to walk and breathe at the same time, as he's clearly absolutely incapable of thinking.

LightDrizzle · 09/05/2022 14:04

Do not rescue him.
I might even go stay with family or friends while he clears up and return a day after her arrival.

linerforlife · 09/05/2022 14:10

He will now need to clean it up. Idiot.

LagerthasOwl · 09/05/2022 14:11

You'd be unreasonable to NOT piss off somewhere for the whole day. Honestly. What a knob.

jimboandthejetset · 09/05/2022 14:13

Oh OP! This is the kind of thing my DH would do.
Definitely go out. But if it was me, I'd also text his mum to tell her what happened. But I'm mean!

DifficultBloodyWoman · 09/05/2022 14:16

DH looked utterly ashamed, but said "it's only dust, it'll wipe off"

Then he can wipe it all off then, can’t he?

Although, frankly, I’m surprised he is still alive. If I had been in your shoes, there would have been tears and a tantrum and god only knows what else.

I trust you will plaster a smile/grimace on your face tomorrow when you laughingly tell your MIL what an idiot her son is and dump him in it?

Summerholidayorcovidagain · 09/05/2022 14:33

Surely yabu to have cleaned up for HIS dm coming in the first place?
Precisely why he didn't worry about making a mess when he has a housekeeper
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bigbluebus · 09/05/2022 14:36

Hand him the hoover, dusters and polish and tell him to crack on. And go out so you don't have to witness the huffing and puffing!

RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 09/05/2022 14:38

I would have angry cried too. What a huge idiot. Make sure he cleans it all up himself. It always amazes me how men who hold down professional jobs (obviously I have no idea if your DH does!) seem to be unable to work this sort of stuff out, like young children.

Alwayshoovering · 09/05/2022 15:16

God, I clenched my jaw so hard with rage reading that.
I am so sorry your H is an inconsiderate dick OP.
Go out for the day, treat yourself to something nice, a few glasses wine, cinema, overpriced lunch etc and tell him you expect it cleaned to the standard it was before by the time you get back or he can sofa surf elsewhere for a few days.

Original poster
Knifer · 09/05/2022 23:33

I went out. Set reminders on Alexa for him to collect youngest DC and fucked off for about four hours. Went and had a browse around local shopping centre, listened to some true crime stuff on my headphones, tried a mango type drink from Costa. Had sheepish message from DH asking when I was going to be home. I told him to let me know when the dust had all been cleaned up and I'd be back. Got a message twenty minutes later saying "almost done, if you set off now it'll be done by the time you get back."

Got back, kitchen was wiped clean but everywhere else still has dust. Pointed it out and went upstairs for a bath. Could hear DH fussing and flapping over how it was everywhere and this had all been clean. Yeah. That's the energy, DH.

OP posts:
DifficultBloodyWoman · 10/05/2022 00:18

Well done, OP!

Now remember that you need to ‘explain’ all of this to his mum tomorrow.

Newestname002 · 10/05/2022 00:57

Well done @Knifer 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻. He'll think twice before being so thoughtless another time.

mackthepony · 10/05/2022 01:38

Yeah man

Curtains I'd say

What an idiot

mackthepony · 10/05/2022 01:38

Has the dust settled yet op?

Allthe4s · 10/05/2022 07:15

Nicely handled OP. I might have lost my shit at that especially if a cake was ruined as well. 😮

Good thing is he’ll be way more careful next time and now knows how long it’s taken you to clean.

lisavanderpumpscloset · 10/05/2022 07:28

Knifer · 09/05/2022 23:33

I went out. Set reminders on Alexa for him to collect youngest DC and fucked off for about four hours. Went and had a browse around local shopping centre, listened to some true crime stuff on my headphones, tried a mango type drink from Costa. Had sheepish message from DH asking when I was going to be home. I told him to let me know when the dust had all been cleaned up and I'd be back. Got a message twenty minutes later saying "almost done, if you set off now it'll be done by the time you get back."

Got back, kitchen was wiped clean but everywhere else still has dust. Pointed it out and went upstairs for a bath. Could hear DH fussing and flapping over how it was everywhere and this had all been clean. Yeah. That's the energy, DH.

Fantastically handled!!

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