So my partner and I have been together for 5 years. He has kids with his ex. She can be controlling and has in the past done things like just turn up at our house unannounced to drop stuff off for the kids or make demands that we parent in a certain way. By his own acknowledgment she can be a control freak and that is part of the reason they broke up.
We have just got back today from a family holiday. We flew back in during the early hours of this morning and we had about 3 hours sleep. My partners ex was due to pick the kids up around midday but I asked my partner if he could go and drop them off instead as I simply couldn’t face seeing her today. He did this and sent her a message saying he would drop them off instead.
within a few minutes he got a phone call from his ex and the crux of the call was she was on the way to the hospital as her mother had been taken in and she asked if she could collect the kids instead. He said yes (our house is between the ex’s house and the hospital) as to him it made sense for her to swing by and collect the kids instead of him driving out to drop them off when he was tired and she was passing anyway.
We have had a massive fall out about this. He says what else could he do under those circumstances I feel like he has disregarded my feelings and wants and she has made a demand and he has just caved in again.
He Feels that he is stuck in between a rock and a hard place and despite trying to fulfill my wishes he can’t do no right by letting the ex collect the kids.
what is your honest opinion?