To ask you for help pls feeling increasingly isolated and down

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I know there's people with much worse issues than me but it would really help to gain some insight please.
In a nutshell:
2 beautiful dc, great job mostly home working, married.
I know lots of people loads of acquaintances but actual friends probably less than 5. My closest friends has made lots of new friendships with school mums they go on holiday etc together I know lots of school mums from kids school and we do playdates but not much socially.
I want to meet more new people and have more adventures but this is difficult for 2 main Reasons.

1. I'm an increasingly nervous driver i hate driving fast and tend to stick to routes I know. I have tried to push myself out if comfort zone but am worse than ever.

1. I'm disabled. I don't tell people I can navigate around it for the most part and hide it. It's not discussed at all. However in the last 2 years I've had 3 falls so it's getting more difficult and I get scared of going out alone to places.

I'm 40 this year I don't want to feel sad I want to get out to New places and have fun- any help. Pls mumsnet?

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How about getting out and about on the train?

I totally get the driving. I get vertigo when anxious or hangover and have been monitoring it and am sure it is purely based on my state of mind. I have been trying to lay off the booze and forcing myself to drive when I'm feeling good and it's slowly improving. Don't feel bad about this, I think it's quite common. I also have a USB with the good life, gavin and Stacey etc which I know by heart and I find that helps. Also can watch it is I need to pull over and calm down (I only listen when driving) also I got a bigger and very comfy cat and this has made me want to drive. It's definitely worth considering a car as a 40th present if you can afford it. The flashier and high end the better. I'm sorry you are feeling this way, don't forget it's not a party that everyone else is at and you are left out. I think most people are struggling on their journeys at the moment and we all forget to remember that
Take care and all the best and above all, be kind to yourself x

As oestrogen dips a lot of women experience anxiety in driving. Is peri menopause something to consider?

I’ve just started on hrt and it’s bloody miraculous because I feel like myself again after about 5 years of being meh.

It was a battle to get a prescription - gps are useless. But when I finally hit myself in front of a menopause specialist and described exactly what I’d be saying to doctors for years, she said it was a classic presentation of the effects of waning oestrogen.

it was all subtle stuff - growing anxiety, dwindling confidence, distraction and brain fog (contributing to a couple of falls), etc

I know it’s tiresome how people jump in to peri menopause as soon as you say you’re in your forties. It’s just been a shock to me how much I felt like myself again, and if I wasn’t feeling so damn positive now I’d be quite upset about the misery years.

Oh yes, HRT is utter magic. I can't believe some people refuse it on puritanical grounds. I would be in prison by now