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To get a sick note

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CleverQuacks · 08/05/2022 10:44

Hi all, I need some advice. I started my job at the beginning of January after a year of being out of work. I work part time (three days a week). I also have long-standing mental health problems: I have a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder.

Since January I have had a really good few months. Felt good and stable with no issues. Then last weekend I completely crashed: suddenly feeling painfully low. Lots of thoughts about self harm and suicide. It’s hard to explain how being so low feels. It’s like even thinking or talking is to much effort. It physically hurts.

So last week I called in sick to work. This weekend I am feeling slightly better but still extremely low. I don’t know whether I should push myself and try to get into work or get a sick note and rest. I am worried cos I haven’t been in this job very long although they were aware of my mental health challenges when I got the job.

Really I feel to Ill to work but is that lazy? I just don’t know what to do. To complicate matters the week after next we are due to go on holiday so I am worried work will think I am skiving if I am to Ill to work but I can go on holiday.

help!

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BaaMoon · 08/05/2022 10:51

Would you be able to work from home?
I think tbh if you are too ill to work then you need to not work. I'd have a chat with the GP and see what the suggest re Fit Note. They don't usually hand them out for no reason so if you get one it's because you need it.

I hope things start looking up for you soon- take care x

BaaMoon · 08/05/2022 10:52

And are you well enough to go on holiday? It might be what your mental health needs.

CleverQuacks · 08/05/2022 10:52

Unfortunately it’s not possible to do my job working from home but thank you for your advice.

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tomatoandherbs · 08/05/2022 10:53

Have you passed your probation?

CleverQuacks · 08/05/2022 10:53

Tbh I don’t feel well enough to go on holiday at the moment but the kids have been looking forward to it for so long that I can’t really cancel (not to mention losing all that money)

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CleverQuacks · 08/05/2022 10:54

I am still in my probation :(

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tomatoandherbs · 08/05/2022 10:54

CleverQuacks · 08/05/2022 10:53

Tbh I don’t feel well enough to go on holiday at the moment but the kids have been looking forward to it for so long that I can’t really cancel (not to mention losing all that money)

Can your partner (if you have one) take them?

tomatoandherbs · 08/05/2022 10:54

I think to go on sick leave
and then go on holiday
would be unwise

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