Beside myself with worry

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I've just tested positive for covid first time.. I've been feeling absolutely dreadful with it. But I am just beside myself with worry, as I've possibly exposed my mum and dad to it as I saw them every day in lead up to testing positive. Mum even drank from my mug by accident the day before! My dad is extremely CV. We always said covid could finish him off. And now I may have given him it. I know nothing is confirmed but already worried sick. How would I even begin to process this, or live with myself. Any advice appreciated.

If they have had their vaccination, they will get it mildly. I work in a care home and residents have had covid and all have not been too bad.

First of all, deep breath. You need to focus on you right now and not "what ifs". You don't say if any of you are vaccinated, but if you are this dramatically reduced the risk of serious disease. Omicron is thought to be a lot less severe for most people.

Unfortunately, in a pandemic, there is very little you can do to stop people catching the disease, other than isolation. Obviously it is not living to do this forever.

Take one step at a time. Neither may even develop COVID. And even if they do, they could have picked this up from anyone. Its not your fault.

I hope you feel better soon x

It's not your fault. You didn't know.

It's likely to be Omicron which is much less severe than the variants around at the start of the pandemic. I was on the vulnerable list for an early vaccine (not CEV but the wave they did after that) and I was OK when I got Omicron - felt crappy but just about managed to work through it (WFH obviously). I hope you are all OK

It's a virus, it isn't your fault at all if it spreads. That's what they do.
Hopefully your CEV dad is fully vaccinated which should help. Also, if he tests positive he needs to let his GP surgery know and he can be given treatment quickly which should help.
My MIL caught it aged 95, she also has diabetes and a heart condition.
She had a runny nose and complained bitterly every day about how bored she was because she wasn't allowed out.

I know 3 people who were CV and who we said if they caught it would be the end of it, and all three have recovered with no effects. The worse one suffered the least.

Don't assume they will catch it. We have had Covid three separate times in our house, last one was DH. I haven't caught it on any of those occasions despite being in the same bed and the night before he tested positive (so very infectious) we were intimate!.

Firstly congratulations on managing to avoid it so far.
Secondly, it is absolutely not your fault.
Thirdly, through a combination of vaccines, better treatments and milder strains of covid, it isn't as likely to lead to complications now.
Focus on getting yourself well and try not to worry.

I was in a similar situation to you but pre vaccines. Tested positive after spending a lot if time with my parents and was worried sick (they never seemed to get it) My brother came to visit and was poorly, testing regularly to negative results then on the day he left he tested positive. My parents were fine then as well.

Honestly the vaccines are doing a marvellous job, I wouldn't worry !

Thank you so much for your replies, I'm really touched. I needed to hear this right now. Thank you all.

Thank you for your reply. Yes we are all triple vaccinated

That's quite amazing, covid works in strange ways I know. Thank you for sharing your story.

That's very reassuring. I will try my best not to worry but it's hard. Xx

I hope my replies to various people are working. I'm new here!

How do you know you didn’t catch it from them? My point is, some people are asymptomatic despite age or other mitigating factors, try not to worry.

This isn't your fault at all, you didn't know. As others have said omicron is usually mild and as they are vaccinated, they are likely to remain mild themselves. I know someone who is immune suppressed after having a heart transplant, they also have end stage kidney failure so are very sick anyway and they survived the first wave when it was more severe.

Please try not to worry. And you cannot blame yourself if they do get it. They chose to see you so chose to take that risk. Hope your all OK x

I spent several days with my 90 year old grandma when I had it (I had minor symptoms ache/ fatigue so didn't test until third day) and she didn't get it or showed no symptoms. I shared a bed with my partner throughout and she never caught it either. So try not to worry.

I know how you must feel but please try not to worry. I managed to nit catch covid from DP despite sleeping in the same bed and having sec several times in the run up to him resting positive.

When I did catch it, we panicked as I am CEV and had also been at the bedside of a very vulnerable patient the day before (when testing negative). Patient did not catch it. I was very tired but nit half as bad as we had anticipated given my vulnerability. I had antivirals and was negative by day 6 and am now recovered.

They could just as easily have given it to you!

Try not to worry - I know that's easier said than done, I was very fretty and weepy when I had it. They need to test very regularly - I'd say twice a day - and it's probably not a bad idea if they isolate from each other. Contact GP if the CEV person gets it - as a pp says, they may get antivirals. So lots of practical things they can do, but now you need to go to bed with a big jug of water and some paracetamol and rest.

Thank you so much for all your advice. Logistically it's a nightmare, my partner still negative but he has bad asthma and I'm worried about him getting it too. We live in a tiny flat. Good advice about mum and dad separating from each other but could be too late.

Thank you for your kind words everyone. I am still wracked with guilt but more ready to face the possible consequences. I will need to enquire about antivirals if it comes to it. Another battle is next week - my boss is against WFH so will probably want me in like they did another colleague!

Don't drag yourself into the office whatever you do - besides not wanting to pass it on, you need to be resting as much as you can. I felt ok to WFH but there's no way I could have trekked into the office and had to walk around and talk to people. Take the time off sick if necessary.

Mate. CALL IN SICK.

It’s not your fault, you didn’t know.
My mum is CEV, and 86, my dad is a frail 88. Mum caught it whilst in hospital for something else, was asymptomatic, and was fine, after we’d prepared ourselves for the worst. Like you, we were told she be finished off by Covid. Dad caught it about 2weeks later, like a bad cold, but was fine after a few days. I never caught it, despite giving care to the both throughout, but I’d had it previously, and we’re all triple vaccinated.
Hope they are both ok.

Update - my dad has just tested positive. I have almost certainly given him it, it's the only explanation. How do I live with myself?? I feel dreadful. It's early days and don't know what will happen. This is literally my worst nightmare, I feel sick to the pit of my stomach.