Neighbours keep ringing my bell

[Katie1012]

My neighbours upstairs have recently got into a habit of ringing my doorbell at night to be let in in the communal door (I live in a converted house). I am sure there’s someone in their flat as they have a baby. I have my own toddler and the last time I answered I was in my pyjamas looking very tired and my daughter awake because of them. They apologised and said they forgot their keys which doesn’t make sense as the door locks after it’s shut which supports the fact that someone’s is at their flat to open it. it’s happened again few nights ago, with them ringing it twice. it’s just getting on my nerves as they keep waking my toddler who’s not the easiest to get to sleep.

I agree with pp.
Tell them to stop doing it. They're waking your baby. They're waking you and it's taking the piss and you won't be opening the door for them.

Yes it's really annoying - but with so many of these threads I really don't understand why you can't come up with a couple of ideas to stop them doing it.

1. Tell them it's bloody annoying and they are to stop doing it because they are waking your toddler.


2. Ignore the doorbell at night when you aren't expecting anyone. If you don't answer they will have to think of another solution.


3. Disconnect it at night when your child is asleep or any other time you don't want to be disturbed.

People will continue to do things like this because it solves a problem for them couldn't be arsed to take keys with them, don't want to disturb their own child You need to remove this "solution" as an option.

It's like countless other situations we see on these threads - ask them to stop, then ignore - same for taking parcels in for neighbours, same for people sending texts late at night (never understood why people don't just put their phone on do not disturb for that one)

So utterly selfish to forget their keys so often.
How the heck do they get into their flat if they have forgotten their keys?

Don't let them in. Ignore all rings if you think it's them.

It's happened twice?
Nip it in the bud right now.
No need to disconnect your bell, just tell them straight out not to ring your bell.

I don’t think you need to have any discussion with them. Just don’t answer it full stop and they will stop.

There's a dad and two teenage sons in the flat above ours. They do that occasionally. But I think it's more a case of accidentally pressing the wrong buzzer when rushing.
Unless I'm expecting someone/something, I tend to ignore the buzzer (but it rarely goes off tbh). I figure if it was urgent, if they had my number they'd call me, or someone else would let them into the block and they'd come up and physically knock on the door.

I would open the front door, explain that they are not to wake you up, buzz their doorbell and then close the door saying you are not letting them in as for security reasons you don’t know if they have lost their key or moved out. Then repeat every time they wake you up by buzzing on your doorbell.

If you keep answering, they're going to think it's fine and not realise there's an issue.

Either ask (tell) them to pack it in, or just stop answering. Or get one of those ring doorbell things so you can see who's there and only answer if it's someone you want to let in.

Get a code system installed. Otherwise don't answer. Or disconnect your bell.

Tell them to get a key safe

Simple. Stop answering it. Tell them to stop.

Put a very bold print note on exit door telling people NOT to forget their keys before leaving or to buzz their own flat to get in if they do.

Why do people let these things happen

Just let them know not to ring your bell and you wont' be answering it

Have they bought / are they renting? If renting, tell them you will contact the landlord if they continue to do it

Can you not just turn your buzzer off ? I’m guess that’s what your neighbours do and that’s why they aren’t answering!

If they do this, and you go down to answer your door and see this has happened again, just lean on their bell until they themselves come out

then you tell them to either use their own fucking doorbell or their own fucking mobile phones like normal people or you will lean on their bell every single time - and possibly just for fun - until they stop this.

Make this problem THEIR problem

THIS!

Just speak to them

I’ve had the exact same issue. Middle aged couple. One of them would always return pickled and would ring my flat to get through the communal entrance. I was super polite and would always let them in. But it got later and later. And happened more frequently. Talking to them seemed fruitless.

in the end I ignored it. The first few times they’d keep ringing and ringing and ringing. But by the third time they finally clocked I was never going to let them in. Problem solved.

Let them wake up their own bloody baby! Just go and say that it’s over. Now. You won’t be answering.

Tell them to get a key safe

Is it possible to mute/disconnect the bell outside of 9am - 5pm.
Otherwise, ask the landlord to check out their bell as it must be faulty and you're constantly acting as some sort of concierge service.
If it's someone you know, or are expecting, they can phone or text you instead.

If my downstairs neighbour did this I’d be furious and my DS is 17! There’s no way he’d dare to do it again!

I wouldn’t ring their bell though because then they’d feel entitled to continue to ring yours. I would cover the (outside) bell with something and stick a note somewhere saying that they’ve woken up your child and you’d appreciate them using their own bell in the future.

If you just ignore, that could be three more nights of your child being woken up. Stand up for yourself and just state the facts….it’s actually great fun and empowering once you get used to it!

I agree. They are selfish, tell them so and stop enabling this nonsense.

Just tell them to stop disturbing you.

I've no idea why people think you should disconnect your own doorbell

If you continue to answer, they will continue to do it. So stop.