Hi i started a whirlwind relationship in the UK with a lady at the start of December. We fell in love quickly and by the end of the month we confessed we loved each other and we would now be exclusive. She then returned home to South Africa for January. Then i flew out to live with her for Feb March and April
During April i caught her sexting graphically a former boyfriend. She tried to lie her way out of instead of confessing which she did in the end. She said it was a one off. I said if it was show me your messages between each other for the previous few months to prove this. She refused which i found hard to swallow if this was correct.
Anyway i have now have some info that casts doubt on what she was doing when she went back on her own to South Africa in January. We video called each other every day and were constantly talking so we knew what each one had been doing every day etc etc.
I now feel that she met up with a former boyfriend who gave her an expensive xmas present £100 jumper but she never ever told me about this potential meeting.
Also there was one night in January where she said she was going to a friends house (a married couple) for a bbq. The story behind this was very very sketchy. I kept asking can we vido call when you get back. She kept putting me off and said i dont know what time i will be back. I said i dont care just call me i wil be available to take your call. She then changed it to my friends have now asked me to stay overnight all within the space of a 5 minute text exchange. This seemed highly suspicious.
Because of the sexting in April which she lied about i lost some trust in her. i have now revisited our relationship and these 2 instances back in January are haunting me and i am agonising over them.
AIBU to ask her about these 2 events again to put my heart and head to rest . I just want to know the truth.
I know there are trust issues here but i want to move forward with the relationship with this person but need to know im not getting played.