Lengthy post incoming......
So me and DH have been together 10years. We have had many mountains to climb to get where we are today. We have 2 DD and rent our flat. Like many the energy increase amongst other inflation is a pain but otherwise live a comfort life.
Unfortunately there is one single trait that I have with my DH that grinds on me.
He is extremely horizontal with others by this I mean he's constantly bending over backward to please anyone afew times nearly costing us our marriage. For context things such as missing school performances because work needed him to stay an extra 30mins, going in on his days off because no one else would, covering other store at the cost of £45 travel (we don't drive) because no one else would and that's just work. Getting involved with random people he serves at work to the point of ridiculousness e.g. offering to helping somone decorate even though there was painting to be done here.
We have gone over this at lenght and hes getting better at saying no. Unfortunately there is one particular person that he just can't see through. This person and there family have nearly cost him his job twice. Now this person, let's call him bob. Bob works with DH so gets paid thw same days, he still lives at home and has no kids, full rent (gives parents nominal), car etc to pay for but nearly every month my DH is paying for something for him lunch at work, tobacco, things his parents have asked him to get from work but hes always 'forgot his card'. My husband tell me he'll give it back but i think the most he gave back to date is 80p. despite my best efforts at trying to get the rose tinted glasses off he still dosnt see it. Thinks he doing a good deed but cant see hes being used.
We work hard for our money and try to be careful so we can save for nice rewards like family holidays which take 4years to save for. AIBU to have just had enough and want him to see sense.
Sometimes think I'm the only person who has a too good hearted partner. 😓