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To hate the weekends

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dottymac · 07/05/2022 17:50

I don't want to...as the weekend draws closer I think, oh what fun we'll have doing family things, day trips, pottering around the house. Then along it comes and I invariably spent the weekend dealing with everyone's mess and arguments and being the resident snack bitch. It's exhausting and mentally draining. Please god, is it only me? What am I doing wrong? (Semi-lighthearted but not at the same time 🤦)

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TheChosenTwo · 07/05/2022 18:03

Haha I seem to spend mine ferrying dc about to work (including late night pick ups) and preparing food for ds If we’re home.
For this reason I try and go out as much as possible at the weekends and keep the housework under control during the week. Usually this can at least take care of one meal out of the house!

pumpkinpie01 · 07/05/2022 18:14

How old are you dc ?

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dottymac · 07/05/2022 18:44

Things do seem a bit better out of the house to be fair. I think I seem to expect a bit of the Walton's/little house on the prairie and it ends up being more lord of the flies 🤦 I should possible lower my expectations a little. They are both primary school age and I've got used to a bit of peace and quiet in my old age. I hate to say it but by Sunday evening I kind of look forward to Monday rolling around when everyone goes back to work/school and I can just suit myself in silence 😅 then I soon start missing them all again....that is until they all reappear and the pattern repeats and infinitum. Never mind , just feeling it particularly intensely today so I'm hiding in my room for a bit until they eventually track me down!

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nexus63 · 07/05/2022 19:16

i hate weekends for different reasons, my partner and i had been together for 18 years, both widowed and decided early on to keep our own houses, he would stay at mine friday-monday and meet now and again for lunch midweek, we talked every day, several times a day. i can fill my week but the weekends are still so bad. my son was a gamer at the weekends so i made snacks for the fridge and it was either eat that or wait for tea as i was not running about cooking every hour. get crackers, breadsticks, cheese, cold meat, bread and some biscuits and tell them to sort it if they want food. when he was younger we got to go out, cool bag with drinks and snacks and off to the park, beach or anywhere else we could go by bus, did not have a car. by the time he was 11 i had become his dads full time carer and there was no trips out at the weekend. try and enjoy your weekends, get help with the mess or leave some of it, tell the kids we are going out and that is that.

TippledPink · 07/05/2022 19:19

I always find I don't have a lot to do! Everyone else always seems so busy, doing fun stuff. I don't seem to have anything to do!

girlmom21 · 07/05/2022 19:20

Make plans and stick to them! Find free or cheap activities to get the kids out the house for a couple of hours. Always!

rc22 · 07/05/2022 19:21

I don't hate them but, every week, have high hopes for them that never really materialise.

KittenKong · 07/05/2022 19:27

I used to enjoy them. Have things to do, places to go... now I just want to sleep! I'm in a rut...

rc22 · 07/05/2022 19:29

KittenKong · 07/05/2022 19:27

I used to enjoy them. Have things to do, places to go... now I just want to sleep! I'm in a rut...

Yes I think this is my problem. I don't really think I've ever got out of the covid lockdown rut.

KittenKong · 07/05/2022 19:30

Yes - plus we are in 'exam season' so it's a case of keeping things a bit low key. Covid was a bit of a release for anti social types like me but it meant I didn't get my 'human contact' fix from my colleagues. Now I just can't be arsed!

cardboardbox24 · 07/05/2022 19:30

I hear you. 3 and 5 year old here. Some quite desperate moments where I had to shut myself away in the kitchen to prevent myself losing my shit with them.

Changethenamey · 07/05/2022 19:32

i have 3 under 9 and I don’t enjoy them either OP! Constantly chasing my tail, dealing with requests for drinks/crafts/food/bum wipes etc and catching up with unfinished housework from the week. I feel like we never actually get anything done. My youngest starts school this September and I’m hoping things will get easier in that I can do housework on my day off in the week and plan some fun stuff for the weekend. It’s exhausting!

MintyGreenDream · 07/05/2022 19:38

I'm getting a t shirt printed with resident snack bitch on.Thats exactly how I feel!

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dottymac · 07/05/2022 19:39

Not to burst your bubble changethenamey but I thought the same, and then my youngest started school and found it doesn't take long for the house to turn to shit again and fall behind on all that good life stuff! I'm hoping it's just an age thing and that eventually I will be able to sit and read my book of a weekend, even just for half an hour and have someone else here actually bring me a cup of tea and a biscuit. AHH, it's nice to dream 🙏🙂

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dottymac · 07/05/2022 19:40

Mintygreendream - I love that idea!

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springisaroundthecorner · 07/05/2022 19:47

I don't like weekends. Even worse if a bank holiday is tagged on. The pressure to be Doing Something. No fun when most places are crowded

BogRollBOGOF · 07/05/2022 19:50

I find it hard that we operate at different paces.

I don't sleep in so am more keen to get the day started. Parkrun is a great outlet for this as I can burn this off while my family is still in vegetate mode.

I get more alone time in the week so am more socially motivated and bored of being in the house. It's hard to balance different social needs. DS1 has ASD so his energy needs considering, and he finds trying new places stressful. But the weekend is family time and there's not many other social opportunities around because everyone else is doing family life.

Sometimes by the time my family's cranked into gear to do something, I've lost the will!

Sometimes I really love 9:05 on a Monday morning!

PortalooSunset · 07/05/2022 20:24

And this is why I work compressed hours, so I can have a day off during the week with no other bugger around 😂

DogsAndGin · 07/05/2022 20:33

@TippledPink same here. I do the chores in an hour or so and then what? 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

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dottymac · 07/05/2022 20:50

Bogrollbogoff - bingo!

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Squealier · 07/05/2022 20:55

I feel somewhat the same although only one dc. My game plan is to absolutely exhaust them with fun activities in the hope of an early ish bedtime. But I have a day off in the week and I really need it to rest / housework/ down time.

whatever1980 · 07/05/2022 20:56

Mornings are packed with kids activities and then housework and washing uniforms changing and washing bedding and making lunch then I struggle to think of something to do for the rest of the day. It is a choice between 3 parks or a wander round home bargains - there's not much where I live. I could happily just go to bed Saturday afternoon and wake up Monday morning for work.

Profanasaurusrex · 07/05/2022 21:00

I currently hate weekends and find them so depressing.

DC are 3 and 7….. they have recently become incredibly stroppy (7YO) and a “threenager”. And they bicker constantly.

I look out for things that are happening locally, am happy to do baking, arts & crafts, join in with games etc etc. but they’re just being so horrid at the moment that it isn’t in any way enjoyable.

really hoping it’s a phase.

CoodleMoodle · 07/05/2022 21:04

Yep! Mine are 8 and 3. We have some lovely times at the weekend but it's also when they're at their worst.

If we stay at home, DS just wants to do whatever DD is doing, but DD doesn't want him in her face all the time! Then she snaps at him and he gets upset and I just spend the whole time wishing it was Sunday night... They do play nicely together, but it always ends in tears.

And then if we go out it's mostly okay, then they're overtired, miserable and/or hyper when we get back, so we can't win!

SuperSleepyBaby · 07/05/2022 21:04

This is exactly how i feel about the weekends OP. I always feel so happy on Friday looking forward to it. Then on Sunday I’m thinking…what? It just went in a blur of housework, breaking up fights, constant requests for snacks. I look forward to work on Monday - it feels really relaxing compared to the weekend.

tomorrow - i am making an effort that we will go out to a park and playground and have a picnic. It will probably be stressful and enjoyable - but its better than being stuck at home!