By not attending?

[summertimee]

MIL hosting drinks in her house next Friday with a lot of people there and emphasis on how everyone ‘has to’ drink

Mine and DH’s DD currently going through the 4 month sleep regression - I am zombified

I don’t really want to drink as I’m so exhausted it’ll go straight to my head

My mum has offered to babysit DD, but (as awful as I sound) I don’t want to waste the offer as me and DH won’t even really be spending time together? I prefer accepting the offer when me and DH finally get time alone to go on a date or just stay i and catch up on sleep!

MIL never has Dd. She gets really uncomfortable and can’t settle her - so it’s not like we can ask her in future

I feel bad but I don’t want to go to a drinks gathering and not drink and raise the questions of “ohhh are you pregnant again” and seem rude for just not drinking, but also don’t want to seem rude for not going? But in all honesty I don’t really want to go I feel horrendous

(I get I’ll never sleep well again please none of this below but I know it’ll get better than the regression stage surely, before the next one of course!)

I wouldn't go - just say you tested positive for the dreaded C virus!

Sounds hideous, can't think of anything less fun than drinking and enforced merriment with a load of pissheads when you're absolutely on your knees with exhaustion. It's a terrible shame you have d&v that night.

I came to say this!

If you wanted to go but didn't want to drink I'd have said just tell MIL in advance that you won't be drinking. Surely with a 4 month old with you people would expect one of you to stay sober anyway?

As you've said though that you don't really want to go anyway, just don't go. You have a 4 month old that isn't sleeping great. I know when my Son was going through sleep regressions partying was the last thing I would want. I would say to your DH that if he wants to go then he's welcome to go without you and you'll stay home with baby but that you don't feel up to going yourself

Goodness YANBU at all. No way I'd use a precious babysitting pass for this, just say you're too exhausted to go and wave DH off if he wants to go. Sounds ghastly and I'm not sleep deprived with a very young baby.

Just say no because of sleep deprivation. It's just one night. Or go and just say you're driving home.