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AIBU?

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No goodbye email from work

22 replies

Purplelemon7 · 07/05/2022 08:29

Hi,

Whenever someone leaves our company our management team send an email on the day or day before departure announcing it to staff and thanking them for their hard work etc. The person departing replies thanking everyone and sharing their contact details etc. I left my job after a decade on what I think were good terms and no such email was sent out. Not sure what to make off it.

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girlmom21 · 07/05/2022 08:30

They were probably just busy and didn't think about it.

Aniita · 07/05/2022 08:31

It's crap, but someone just forgot. Personally, I would have initiated a goodbye email myself ( this has always been the norm antwhere I have worked tbh)

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 07/05/2022 08:32

Were you usually to send the email or to remind the sender?

KangarooKenny · 07/05/2022 08:33

Probably just forgot. I wouldn’t be emailing a good bye personally.

Antarcticant · 07/05/2022 08:33

Admin cock-up. Could you ask one of your former colleagues to circulate your contact details and a 'goodbye' message from you?

LollyLol · 07/05/2022 08:34

That's a shame. Probably underlines you were right to leave!

balalake · 07/05/2022 08:44

I expect forgetfulness too.

When it comes to retirement or move to a new job, the most important thing for me would be to say thank you in person to those whose support and kindness I have really appreciated.

DomPom47 · 07/05/2022 08:47

They sound very disorganised and thoughtless.
wishing you the best in the next chapter of your life 💐

over2021 · 07/05/2022 09:18

girlmom21 · 07/05/2022 08:30

They were probably just busy and didn't think about it.

That doesn't make it OK. Especially is OP has worked there for 10 years!

Sorry OP, I'd be upset too x

ImustLearn2Cook · 07/05/2022 09:22

Yanbu, I would be upset too.

Thingsdogetbetter · 07/05/2022 09:23

Or maybe they realised that thos tradition puts pressure on departing people to share they contact details when they don't want to. The last thing I'd want is for all my colleagues to have my contact info!! Any who were my friends would have them already anyway. Creepy Brian in accounts or Nosey Maud in marketing do not get my contact details! ....... perhaps someone complained about this 'tradition'.

Ohdoleavemealone · 07/05/2022 09:24

Similar happened to me. In fact on my last day they made a big fuss of someone leaving the following week with flowers etc.

Greydog · 07/05/2022 09:41

I left after over 40years with my company, and all I got was "is there anything in the office that belongs to the company"

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Purplelemon7 · 07/05/2022 11:13

Yeah I think it’s probably just them being disorganised and forgetful. Just feels a bit rubbish after all these years. Even people who left on not so good terms got a goodbye email if not a goodbye e-card. I had my exit interview with my manager on the day I was leaving and was positive about everything so surprised he didn’t remember. Oh well.

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CapMarvel · 07/05/2022 11:18

You're leaving anyway, who cares?

gettingolderandgrumpy · 07/05/2022 11:30

Tbh I find those goodbye emails really cringy . Lovely working with you blah blah blah . What was said in your exit interview was positive that’s what matters . Do you really care about your colleagues? I guess if everyone did get a goodbye email and you didn’t that’s got to sting but honestly it doesn’t matter . Good luck with the new job .

SkiingIsHeaven · 07/05/2022 11:32

Mine didn't invite me to the exit interview in the company HQ in London because they knew I would be tearing that office to shreds.

Horrible bunch of misogynistic pigs. I had told them about issues with a member of staff on numerous occasions and they did nothing.

I didn't want a card or email but I do wish I had had my day at HQ.

Found a much better job so happy I left.

notimagain · 07/05/2022 11:32

I think this is an "it depends on the company" ...if the company normally makes an effort to recognise those leaving then not being thanked does seem a bit rubbish..

OTOH couple of years back I (like many others ) left a big company as part of Covid induced cull after thirty plus years of service and it was a very impersonal process, a bit like what Greydog describes: Hand kit in, hand ID in and try not to let the door hit backside on the way out.

TBF knowing the management culture nobody expected it to be handled in any other manner.

nearlyspringyay · 07/05/2022 11:36

I think wfh has broken down what would have been 'friendships', colleagues you have little interaction with, it doesn't really matter who leaves and goes.

Time2ChangeName · 07/05/2022 11:38

I’ve always sent one myself to say goodbye and thank colleagues for all their assistance. Don’t you have some sort of leaving presentation with a card and a gift?

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Purplelemon7 · 07/05/2022 12:31

We used to do card and gifts a few years ago until our manager and secretary left and then covid hit. I’ve worked with my new manager for 8 years. He doesn’t seem bothered about doing card and gifts but did do the email at least for everyone who has left since he took over.

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MajorCarolDanvers · 07/05/2022 12:32

Its thoughtless and careless. I happened to me once and it pissed me off. But don't read too much into it. It certainly wont be deliberate.

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