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I feel my life is on hold

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Suz44410 · 06/05/2022 17:05

We have sold our home and buyers are being very patient. They said they will wait as long as it takes for us to find a home. Husband has taken this on board and is being very lazy. I arrange viewings for homes and he dismisses Every home. I know people will question whether he goes really want to move and he’s he does. This was our starter home and 15 years later we are definitely finding it very small for all 5 of us.

I keep emotionally eating and feel fed up. I’m so stressed about the kids new school and obviously we won’t find anything before September. The youngest has told everyone we are moving so her friends don’t play with her anymore (primary school). Older ones very excited to move as they will finally not have to share rooms.

I’m feeling really fed up. Every time I talk to him he gets angry and says he refuses to move into any old shit hole. I feel my life is on hold. I’m fed up if this house. Every single noise bothers me, I need a bigger space.

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Greenqueen40 · 06/05/2022 17:07

The buyers obviously aren't going to wait forever! Tell your husband they have set a time limit, that may make him move his ass a bit

Suz44410 · 06/05/2022 17:07

Also I keep getting text messages from school mums telling me children are saying we’re moving and is this true. I don’t want to share anything other than yes we’re looking but then they question where n when abs that stresses me as they think I’m being secretive! But in truth I have no idea where we will end up and when!

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Suz44410 · 06/05/2022 17:08

Greenqueen40 · 06/05/2022 17:07

The buyers obviously aren't going to wait forever! Tell your husband they have set a time limit, that may make him move his ass a bit

Green would you also feel like life is on hold if you were me? I can I stop feeling like this?

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Fizzyfish · 06/05/2022 17:09

If he doesn't want to move into any old shithole then can he show you some homes he does like? You shouldn't have to take all the responsibility for this yourself, it should be a joint effort and he's not helping you atm

Quartz2208 · 06/05/2022 17:10

Your life is on hold because you are in limbo =- made the decision to move but arent doing anything.

You will lose your buyers so he needs to basically get his act together. I would be angry though with him

Suz44410 · 06/05/2022 17:11

Fizzyfish · 06/05/2022 17:09

If he doesn't want to move into any old shithole then can he show you some homes he does like? You shouldn't have to take all the responsibility for this yourself, it should be a joint effort and he's not helping you atm

He says he has no time. Truthfully he doesn’t as I’ve seen how hard he works. He doesn’t have lunch break even. But he finds fault in everything I find. He wants very modern, open plan living, large garden and en-suite to main bedroom. I look everyday on Rightmove but I cannot find everything in one property. He’s not prepared to do any work to the house and wants something ready done

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veronicagoldberg · 06/05/2022 17:13

Please chivvy him along!

I'm currently waiting for the lady whose house we've offered on to find an onward purchase. She is dragging her feet and it's fucking infuriating rather annoying.

Hana89 · 06/05/2022 17:18

I agree with @Fizzyfish . This shouldn't all be on you @Suz44410 and I'm so sorry that an exciting opportunity is starting to feel like quite a burden.
I know my partner was a bit slow when we were making the switch from renting to buying. He kept telling me not to book viewings, that he wanted to see the area and maybe sleep on it and then book a viewing.... We missed soooo many houses! Haha! For what it's worth, I think being afraid of change is a big thing for men, and rather than expressing it sensibly or explaining it, they tend to just shut down or get cross.

😚

Hana89 · 06/05/2022 17:19

Ps. Sorry for the kissy face!

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