To eat some of DS chocolate/ sweets

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DS isn’t a massive eater of sweets and chocolate: he’ll open a small
packet and take one, abandon the rest. He would eat fruit before sweets. This isn’t a humble brag as he would eat cake and other foods til the cows came home.

at Christmas we had to throw out last years Easter eggs as they were out of date. At the moment the snack cupboard still has sweets from halloweeen in it. There are some christmas sweets lying about. I don’t think he’s eaten any of his Easter eggs. He goes to birthday parties most weekends, and there are often sweets given out

wibu to help him out by eating some of the chocolate: DH says I have no right to eat any of DSs food

It’s not helping him is it, it only helps you, but if he’s never going to eat it then why not? Personally if he loves cake I’d just the stuff to decorate cakes, but the excess that he will never eat either throw it or eat it yourself.

Eat it! Ridiculous to even question it, your DH is bonkers. Fine if your son had chosen a very specific treat and you ate it, or a special gift, fair enough. But you have a load of bog standard stuff he doesn't even want!

DH and I have eaten most of the DCs (age 6 and 2) Easter Eggs! They like the looking for the chocolate and eating it on the day but after that it just gets forgotten about.

We'd obviously let them have it if they asked for them but they haven't, when they ask for treats the eldest always wants a nutella sandwich and the little one asks for icecream.

Your dh is nuts. He'd rather leave it until it needs to be chucked out? That's incredibly wasteful.

Tell ds you will be eating his sweets if he doesn't want them. And don't buy him anything in future. You could always melt any chocolate down and make cakes or traybakes for you all.

All of this! Surprised you even need to ask. Is your DH controlling generally? Also how old is DS why didn't you just ask him?

Could you just ask your son?

I used to Chuck my kids sweets out.
Halloween sweets when they went back to school, Xmas sweets we’d have a clear out when going back to school and I’d just keep ‘good’ stuff, same with Easter.
it’s part of cleaning up, I would never have had a conversation with my DH about it.

Why would your husband even get a say in this decision?

Why not ask him if you can have some? Use some of the chocolate in baking, even if just rice crispy buns etc

If he likes cake then just melt the eggs down and make Crispie cakes with him.

Sweets can be decanted into a big sandwich bag and put wherever you keep the snacks, then just take a small amount with you on days out etc.

Your DH is ridiculous!! He won’t eat it and it will go out of date so why not!

I do with my DS’s sweets/choc. He often ends up with so much he wouldn’t get though it all and isn’t massively fussed with it. It’s not like he’s not being well fed otherwise. Once food is in the house it’s just food, not one persons food. He might have some biscuits I’ve been bought, i might have some chicks my husband has been given etc. We’re a family!

I would ask ds if he minds sharing with you. As pp suggested we also used chocolate in cooking and can decorate cakes with some sweets rather than waste. Some unopened in date stuff could go to food bank?

DTs are like this, get all excited about easter / halloween and then I end up binning it in readiness for the next wave.

I would ask him, my daughter (sometimes) shares with me and it makes her happy too to give me a present :-)

Is this like some weird reverse of this thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4541715-hubby-ate-daughters-easter-eggs

Definitely eat them. I’d also use it as an opportunity to explain about food banks and ask him to help you clear out some stuff he doesn’t want - probably with the plan of “swapping” it by buying him something else.

My kiddos are teens now and we always had this issue with Easter eggs going uneaten till Christmas and me loath to buy more treats when they were all still lying around in DD and DS bedrooms. We now have a system whereby chocs and sweets given to anyone in the family for Christmas, Easter, birthdays etc.. are that persons own and not to be touched by others but once a decent amount of time has passed (judged by me if it's not moved for weeks) it goes into The Cupboard and is then free for all to take whenever. I also put other treats in The Cupboard and the DC now put any chocs they've had enough of or are not that bothered about in there voluntarily. Works for us and me and DH get a chocolate treat in an evening from time to time without buying extra.

Your hubby is touched....eat them.

I'll never forget my son's tears when I absentmindedly ate a chocolate sheep he'd left on his bedroom mantlepiece. He was 'saving' it. I would ask him.

How old is he? ask him? Offer to swap for things he would enjoy?

I thought this, the answers are somewhat different tho 😂

What kind a world are we living in where chocolate is going spare and uneaten. Of course help your child out ..... Scoff it - nowt like that warm glow that chocolate gives you

I don't think you should frame it like you're "helping" DS by eating it.

It's his stuff - I would offer to "swap" it for money/vouchers/a toy instead.

Ask him ?