Waking for a dog when pregnant is different to waking for night feeds?

[sweetpeach123]

I'm just so pissed off,
DH has woken me about 5 times throughout the night to check the dog as she's been restless and hes just woken me again to let her out- 1, I'm pregnant 2, Iv been up in the night with my SEN DS (he doesn't sleep and I think I now sleep walk an sort him its same time every night so just becomes routine and you get used to it !)

So my response was- I'm knackered why can't you instead of keep waking me up when your clearly awake ? (Common sense huh?)
He then says "we'll if You can't wake up with a dog how on earth will You cope with night feeds and waking with the new baby?

Iv breast fed all 3 of our kids and he never did a night feed once, wasn't an issue for me because I absolutely loved it and it's my baby it's a different kind of having to wake up? But also I'm pregnant I'm bound to be more knackered surely? He is just an utter d@*K!!!!

Four children and a dog with a lazy man? YABU!

He doesn't take turns at night feeds because you breast feed, I'm damn sure he could've done sone night wakings. When he can help with the dog, he wants you to practise being up all night?

Sounds a wonderful parent and partner, not!

Your H wakes you to get you to take the fucking dog out? Did I get that right?

Depriving another person of sleep is abuse, @sweetpeach123
He doesn't like you.
This is what people do to someone they consider to be shit on the soles of their shoes.
Not for nothing is depriving someone of sleep used as a torture method.

Is this a one off? If this is standard, why have more children?

He then says "we'll if You can't wake up with a dog how on earth will You cope with night feeds and waking with the new baby?

There is something really horrible lurking behind that statement. It's contempt.

Tell him you won't need to as you're FF this one, you've done 3, this one is on him!!

Seriously though, this is totally unacceptable, how can you stand living with someone so selfish & stupid??

This is about the fourth thread I've read today where someone has asked an OP why she has had children with a useless man.

It's not exactly helpful. It's like saying, "You made your bed..."

I agree with the above statement. Something is really off.

I don't need the shit responses I feel so low at the minute.

We was genuinely great and he wanted to try for another etc was all happy happy but since Iv been getting further into this pregnancy he's been absolutely awful and he hates me I'm sure of it
Just constantly complaining I havnt cleaned the windows one week etc or just done enough in General! My house is immaculate the kids are always dressed beautifully and all fed Great. Not much more I can do??

Il be really honest I know I cope fine on my own as he's just been away for 10 nights and life was so much easier on m own with the kids We had fun, sleep and no worries. I wasn't up late cleaning and doing 101 jobs so he didn't wake up an moan.
Iv rang our local housing team and getting help to get my own place snd leave as financially I cannot do it on my own.
I just think we're better of on our own right now x

Well done you. Brave move.

Are you not able to tell him to fuck off when he wakes you up in the night to do a job that HE wants doing? I mean that quite seriously. If you're not able to say no (not even the FOURTH time he wakes you up!) then I'd be concerned about your welfare.

Ps what's wrong with the dog? Is it likely to be resolved by the time the baby is born? Because I've got a feeling that once the baby is here, you'll still be expected to sort the dog because you'll be "up anyway".

Just seen your update. I think that's your answer right there- you feel calmer and safer when he's not around. I hope the housing team are able to help you quickly. Stay strong xx

Get out of bed on the wrong side this morning?

Oh I do care about my dog but if she wants a wee in the night because he fed and watered them again once I'd put them to bed knowing it would make them wake up then it's his fault snd Iv been up with our son surely he can go down. Not that I can't be bothered but I'm beyond tierd so thanks for your irrelevant post :)

He wakes me because I snore and it keeps him awake.....
this is disgusting?!

He’s punishing you. No reasonable human who’s awake and thinking the dog needs to be let out thinks “I’ll wake my pregnant wife to do that, instead of doing it myself, what with being awake already”.

Glad to read your update and hope leaving is possible for you. Life free of moaning and being poked awake by someone who doesn’t like you: imagine how good you’ll feel.

I just want to be me and my kids now, we deserve better and so be it if it means we're on our own. We will be happy and happiness is honestly the key to a better future. I wont argue il just get our bags an go it's that simple. I can't be treated this way no more when im down and feeling this way. Im not being the best mum that I can be

Thanks everyone x

Firstly,

Secondly, ignore the shitty comments

Finally, LTB he sounds insufferable

Not really the point as H does seem abusive, but who wanted the dog ?
If it was all you and he didn't really want it then playing devils advocate I can sort of see why he expected you to get up and not him.

He wanted the dog 100% not me, a dog never came into my mind once as we have kids and I have a lot of commitments
He got the dog himself and off his own back, collected it on his own, picked the breed etc and paid for it. Nothing to do with me what so ever! Not that I don't adore her and love her because I do she's an absolute gem and she is my little queen she follows me everywhere but I didn't want a dog I have enough to do.
Just to clear it up x

Thank you ❤️❤️

I know what you mean, but seriously these (mostly) men don't suddenly turn in to arseholes when you're pregnant for the second, third, fourth times.

Quite often they do after number one. So why do women continue to procreate and put up with this shitty behaviour.

I doubt ops dh all of a sudden became an arse

Win win then @sweetpeach123 get rid of the H and the dog. Sorry I'm being flippant but he sounds awful.

No I totally agree with you. The truth is brutal sometimes x

@Vidax
He's been an utter arse since he got back from his 2 week lads holiday that he barely spoke to me during .... do the maths?