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to ghost her?

12 replies

Eliphanbee · 05/05/2022 19:33

I know I'm being unreasonable..I'm just not sure how to handle this.
I had a close friend growing up, looking back more of a 'frenemy' who always liked to be 'better' than me. We met briefly a few years ago, which petered out quite quickly, there was an occasion where she made me feel uncomfortable with a comment.
I have recieved a message out of the blue, she really wants to meet up. The thing is, I was on the receiving end of a lot of negative behaviour in the past, and the people now in my life i am generally calm and happy with. As soon as I saw the message a negative feeling came over me, and I'm experiencing anxiousness just thinking about it, even though it may be fine.
I know I don't owe anyone anything, but I'm such a people pleaser who hates confrontation/to say no
I am aware of how wet I sound!

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Duchess379 · 05/05/2022 19:52

I'd delete the message & block her number. You don't need someone who only brings negativity into your life. 💕

Alcibiade · 05/05/2022 19:54

You said it yourself. You don't owe anyone anything.

Ignore the message and carry on with your life.

SnowyPetals · 05/05/2022 20:01

Delete the message and pretend she never sent it.

thursdaythursday · 05/05/2022 20:13

I was recently in a similar position. I tried to be nice about cutting ties but she didn't get the message and got very nasty. I wish I had ghosted her.

Nosetickle · 05/05/2022 20:15

Totally within your rights to ignore her message and block her for good measure.

DownTownAbbey2 · 05/05/2022 20:15

Delete and block.

KylieCharlene · 05/05/2022 20:15

Yes, I'd ghost her.

Eliphanbee · 05/05/2022 20:55

Thank you for your replies..I actually thought I was being unreasonable by ignoring, it's nice to know I'm not :)

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doggiescats · 05/05/2022 21:00

I have a frenemy and I really understand your anxiety!! Never know what passive aggressive behaviour you are going to get next …I really cannot be arsed nowadays and just send back very neutral replies when I can actually be bothered!
I havnt blocked her I just do not invest and head space where she is concerned.

disconnecteddrifter · 05/05/2022 21:28

Read my brilliant friend. Elegant ferrante

DownTownAbbey2 · 05/05/2022 21:31

Read my brilliant friend. Elegant ferrante
the TV adaptation is good.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 05/05/2022 21:33

Did you maybe just need us to give you permission? Block and move on!

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