Put a question to Bridget Phillipson, Shadow Education Minister

My feed

to access all these features


WIBU to buy myself an engagement ring a year after the wedding?

13 replies

LovelySparklyThings · 05/05/2022 11:09

DH and I got married last year after 10 years together. It is my 2nd marriage, his first. We wear matching plain platinum bands only, because at the time I genuinely wasn't bothered about an 'engagement' ring. It seemed a bit daft, old-fashioned and a waste of money.

However, recently I've been looking at my plain band and, much as I love it, I am increasingly feeling as if I would like something a bit, well...prettier to wear with it. I go to a lot of antiques fairs etc and have found myself gravitating towards the sparkly things!

I don't wear jewellery really, no other rings, plain stud earrings etc only. I don't know where this desire for a bit of bling has sprung from!

Would it be weird to buy myself a pretty ring to wear alongside my wedding band, given that everyone would assume it is an 'engagement' ring?

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?


You have one vote. All votes are anonymous.

Hoolahulahoop · 05/05/2022 11:12

Go for it! I have a solitare and I like it. But I treated myself to a very bling engagement ring. I just tell people I got it for my tenth anniversary (no one need know) ..if it bothered you say it came from a treasured aunt. But go for it. Bling is always a good idea😍

Hoolahulahoop · 05/05/2022 11:12

Eternity I meant

anniepanniepears123 · 05/05/2022 11:13

Nope your money to buy what you want

Dixiechickonhols · 05/05/2022 11:18

I wear my grandma’s as an engagement ring now. I didn’t have one as I wasn’t bothered at time. I’d just tell him what you’ve put in your post and then get one you like.

PinkArt · 05/05/2022 11:24

Definitely buy yourself a fabulous ring. If it's good enough for Destiny's Child, it's good enough for all of us! But I'd wear it on a different finger - it feels odd to wear it like an engagement ring when it isn't.

CounsellorTroi · 05/05/2022 11:26

Go for it. If you like antique/vintage jewellery (I love it) you could get something really lovely relatively cheaply.

LovelySparklyThings · 05/05/2022 11:29

CounsellorTroi · 05/05/2022 11:26

Go for it. If you like antique/vintage jewellery (I love it) you could get something really lovely relatively cheaply.

I do, I'm thinking of something art deco-y...

OP posts:
CrotchetyQuaver · 05/05/2022 11:31

Whatever you want if you're paying! I've been married 27 years, hardly ever wear my engagement ring these days but I treated myself with some inheritance money to a very pretty sparkly ring (antique /secondhand) which I wear as an engagement ring if I go out.

PleasantBirthday · 05/05/2022 11:37

Why not buy yourself a ring, if you want to? Get the one you want, wear it every day, enjoy it.

dontknowhow2help · 05/05/2022 12:45

My DH didn't want a wedding ring at first as he's not into jewellery, but a year in changed his mind and now wears his with pride! I'd say go for it.

Lottapianos · 05/05/2022 12:50

'It seemed a bit daft, old-fashioned and a waste of money'

You were spot on first time!

Sure, buy yourself a ring, why not. If people do assume it's an engagement ring, they will give it only a second's thought and then move on

WimpoleHat · 05/05/2022 12:51

Why not? You can always wear it on your right hand if you don’t want it to look like an engagement ring. Not that it matters! I also know people who don’t wear their engagement rings every day and just wear them for best. Do what suits you and enjoy!

WindyGlowers · 05/05/2022 13:14

Go for it. My engagement ring doesn't fit me anymore so I'm thinking of doing the same thing.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.