DP and I have a 15 week old, two weeks until he's 4 months, which with the consent of our GP and health visitors we'll start weaning then. AIBU for not wanting to hear help from DPs family and am i being petty for holding a grudge against what was said?
DP has a cousin who has an 18 month old, so she believes she's an expert on babies and how they should/shouldn't be raised. She has a tendency of calling us out on things that aren't her concern, such as it being "too early" to start weaning. "it's not good for them to be on their tummy at that age, it's not safe for them" (DS is ALWAYS supervised when he's tummy down, but we noticed it helped with his colic so allowed him to have some tummy down sleeping, ALWAYS SUPERVISED).
the last straw happened recently when LO was admitted into hospital for a couple of nights where we stayed due to him having a bacterial infection, and once we returned home, after nights of me worrying (as it was hard to locate the source of infection, and for a couple of days i was left not knowing what was going on, naturally stressing and thinking the worst) she decided it was a good idea to have a parenting lesson on DP and i. "there are things done to prevent these issues" "yes, children, especially babies are constantly sick, but we need to be extra careful in certain situations so these things don't happen". I was livid with the insinuation that DP and I aren't careful with our DS and that had we been more "careful" this wouldn't have happened. I'm very careful with avoiding public transport/going to public places, whenever i do take LO out it's for a walk in fresh air.
we had covid a couple weeks ago, and doctors think the covid could've led to this infection, although it's not 100% certain, so we remain not knowing what caused it.
she constantly gives clothes that no longer fit her baby, and sends everything she can to us, so i feel it's wrong for me to feel a little resentment towards her. but i've started having serious moments of getting irritated when she speaks. prior to me having DS, during my pregnancy she was the same always saying what I could or couldn't eat, how much, and MIL would always compare me to her. how during her nieces (DP cousin) pregnancy this is what she did and i should follow in her footsteps), maybes it's accumulated over the months, but i can't help it!
she keeps trying to give advice on what we should and shouldn't start weaning our son with, and trying to help us in his journey and i just don't want to hear it anymore. AIBU for feeling this way?