First timer poster here.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years, together for 11. We have a 3 year old son. We both work and my job has quite a lot of stress attached to it that affects direct family personally (it is a family business). We are both often stressed / tired in different ways but I’m primarily responsible for organising everything and doing all the housework / childcare responsibilities. He is quite a hands on dad in terms of spending quality time with our son but not in respect of doing things like feeding him, taking him to classes etc. I work 3 days which often spills into 5 as extra hours, my husband 5 days and he is the main breadwinner, mainly by choice as we agreed I’d reduce my hours post birth.
My annoyance is everytime I get upset about anything, either a culmination of stressful factors or because something specific has happened, his reaction is ‘it must be the time of the month’ or ‘I’m having a tantrum’ or I’m just being a cow. Today is his birthday, a lot of effort has been made and something happened that affected my family that upset me. I had a little cry in private which he walked in on which then caused a massive shouting session from him, how i’d ruined his birthday and been dramatic etc. he gets exceptionally angry and if I try defend my behaviour he just shouts and says I’m being awful and treats me like a toddler that needs a time out. Im completely fed up of his behaviour and really don’t know how to improve things. I’ll be the first to admit I have a temper and can be quick to anger but I’ve really worked on this and in these instances, it is him flying off the handle.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.