I feel like mum doesn't want me at her wedding

[Briesandwich]

My mum gets married later this year, when I full be full term pregnant.

The plan is to attend unless I have just given birth or I'm in labour. This has always been the plan, I would hate to miss my mum's wedding. The birth of my eldest DD was very traumatising, and I also have a lot of anxiety about this pregnancy due to previous losses. This has made me consider an elective section, but I've also realised if I do that I won't get to be at my mum's wedding. Therefore I'm hoping to go natural and have a better experience this time so I can still be there for.my mum's special day. To note - I have only discussed considering a section with my husband, not with my mum.

My mum has three kids and knows there is a possibility I won't be there. I've also said I'm bargain hunting for something wear to the wedding incase I never end up wearing it. But the other day she made a comment about me not being there because "you might just wake up that day and feel too tired".

I'm not really sure if I'm being overly sensitive, but I feel a little offended she would think I just wouldn't bother turning up. I'm well aware of how tiring the end of the third trimester is, but as I've said this is my mum's wedding and I'll try my damn best to be there.

We have an ok relationship, but as a teen it felt she tried to compete with me a lot. She's also made comments before about how I will take all the attention from her on her wedding day because people will fuss over me. I honestly am dreading the fuss, I really don't want it at all and I think I'll spend my day biting my tongue every time an aunt tells me how huge I am. But both of these comments are making me feel like my mum is hoping deep down I won't make it to the wedding...

[WhenISnappedAndFarted]

It personally came across to me that your Mum understands that you might just be too tired to go to the wedding and that's okay.

[SickAndTiredAgain]

But the other day she made a comment about me not being there because "you might just wake up that day and feel too tired".

You know your mum best, but generally speaking this sounds more like someone reassuring you that she understands if you can't make it, and not to push yourself to go, or to feel guilty if you can't.

[Briesandwich]

Thank you for your viewpoints. I did wonder if this was the case too. My emotions are a bit all over the place the past week and I wondered if I was reading into things too much

[LibrariesGiveUsPower]

I think unless she’s generally prone to digs at you that maybe you’re misreading her.

[DinoRock]

@WhenISnappedAndFarted

It personally came across to me that your Mum understands that you might just be too tired to go to the wedding and that's okay.

I was thinking this too. But only you know the way in which it was delivered etc. I would say though, try to seperate the decision to have a csection from your mums wedding. Its unfortunate they clash but you have to do whatever you feel is right for you medically.